Why don't the girls just say what they mean?

Question

Girls never say what they really mean. They always beat around the bush! What do they want us to know their "code" of what they mean???

Answer 1

Because girls like having the upper hand...and as long as we keep you wondering...we have it! :)

Answer 2

oooooh, that's a big question, do you know that?

basically, girls are not rewarded when they say what they mean. If they say something intelligently piercing, then an argument or discussion happens, and that makes most girls uncomfortable. we are the ones who "supposed to" be sweet and smooth things over when people get their feathers ruffled, not the ones who START the trouble. so there is a tendency to hold back.

now I know girls can sometimes be very bitchy and catty, but that's usually related to some kind of rivalry with another female, one way or another, sometimes in a convoluted way. generally, we are trained as girls to be really sociable and basically "nice'.

so girls will say, "oooh, that dress looks great one you!" when in fact it looks terrible on their friend!

when it comes to sex, things get even worse - if a girl shows open interest, and again, Says What She Thinks, she will get labelled. The label has a ridiculous power to cause people to make judgements. She could be attacked verbally, or even physically, just because people think she is loose for saying what she means.

So, girls have more reasons to NOT say what they mean, than they do to be open and free about everything.

Answer 3

I do not fit in this category, and i know that not everyone of us does. I am extremely direct with no guessing what I am thinking to follow.
Sorry to hear that you are dealing with little girls, as us older girls have no tolerance for anybody that can't say what they mean.
truthfully, I find that usually it's the men with difficulty in the communication dept. This is not a sexist remark, just observation. Men tend to think on the surface, if at all, but this issue of not understanding each other has been since the beginning of time.We did not invent it, so your best bet is to wait until you find that person who is adept at her communication skills, but when you find her, watch out. As they say; "be careful what you wish for."

Answer 4

well, you're just not meeting the right girls. I don't beat around the bush about anything. Ask me something and I will give you an honest answer...

Answer 5

I think it is because the brain of a woman is so superior that it works overtime and at maximum warped speed, failing to keep up with their train of thoughts and the expected results.

or

Women are people pleasers - caught between what they want and should really say and what they think they should say. A woman wants a guy to tell her that he loves her but doesn't want him to do it because she complained about it or because she told him he should say it more often.

So she sends out hints - hoping that the guy will get the point and gets upset because he didn't get it and is still not doing what she desires. As a result it builds up resentment and she hopes that the guy will now console her in his failure to do what she felt he should have done in the first place and didn't do, even after she hinted at it and now he he fails again because he is oblivious as to why she is upset and feels no desire to console her because he has no idea that he has done her a grave in justice by not saying he loves her and by not picking up on the hints thrown at him and by not recognizing why she was upset in the first place and how he continues to make matters worse by failing to get that his ignorance has created a domino effect and that everything he does from that moment on will lead to his continued down fall as in the case of his predecesors -the cave man.

Simply put women hint to men what men should already know to do. It's called helping you out but becomes tiring as in charades trying to give people clues as to how they should behave or what they should say. If your girlfriend has to tell you to say you love her, it is not the same. You on your own accord telling her is worth millions.

Answer 6

Because we are always hoping that the man that really gets us will come along. We don't enjoy playing games (all the time) but we are hoping that you just might care enough about us to know what's going on in our heads because you know us so well. We know what you're thinking, why can't you do the same?

Answer 7

Girls don't say what they mean because they are afraid you might be an undercover cop and what they always really mean would land them in jail on prostitution charges

Answer 8

Not all girls are like that! Some ppl are just like that! Beleive or not, some guys have that qualitiy too. There are both men and women; how are straightfoward.

Answer 9

girls don't always say what they mean because they have expectations from guys to know how they want things... and sadly, they get disappointed more often than not.

Answer 10

I guess it's more fun to play with codes =P

Answer 11

they do it for fun...and it is fun, until the guy gets another gal who is not that stupid and goes to the facts, sends the right signals, and ends up in bed with the guy, before all the other sl*uts who are just left whinning!!!!