Will he ever leave his wife for me?

Question

we been together for two years. he says he is in the middle of a divorce and will move in soon. he is with me from 6am to 10 pm every day since we also work together and he swears he loves me wants life with me etc wants to marry him etc. But he still goes home to sleep. (in separate rooms too supposably)
Elizabeth

Answer 1

oh girl he has been playing you for a fool. Why don't you call up his wife and ask her if they are sleeping in separate rooms. Pick up your self respect and kick him to the curb.

Sorry!
G.G.

Answer 2

I am sorry that you are having a hard time dear but I would not be so quick to judge him just yet. And all these people who want to blame you and call you cheap, or blame him and call him a bastard don't know what the hell they are talking about. Relationships are always much more complicated than the 1.5 setence bullsh@t answer that most people are giving. I was in a similar situation, and I was in a horrible marriage that was taking a long time to end. I was staying at my house at the time because I couldn't afford two places. Talk to your guy, tell him that you love him, and that you want to be with him. Tell him however that you want to be involved in the divorce process. Set a timeline that you can follow together where by he has to have made progress toward his divorce or atleast that you should know what is going on. Wanting somthing more for yourself isn't a crime. If he loves you he will want you to feel secure in your relationship, and his divorce process should be transparent so that you understand what is going on. Now it is possible that he isn't going to leave his wife, but we don't know what kind of man he is only you do. Have an open and honest discussion with him about where you are in your relationship and where you are going and where you would like to be. It will force him to make his choice apparent to you. Good luck my dear and i hope this helps.

Answer 3

Elizabeth,

If he was going to leave his wife he would and could have done so in what's now been a two year affair with you. Assuming he's telling the truth about sleeping in separate rooms from his wife then I would take this as another indication he's not leaving her because while this would confirm that his marriage is physically over it also suggests that she's accepted the possibility he's seeing another woman or dating discreetly but has him by the balls over community property and he's not willing to divorce he and risk loosing it all.
My suggestion to you is maybe you should take a 'cooling off' period by telling him you need time to think without his pressuring you because you're ready for a open and public relationship with him as an available man. If he's not willing to do this then you should probably consider dating other people and maybe this will force him to make a choice.

Answer 4

From everything you are telling me. I have had this question asked before and know ppl in similar situations. Trust me, this guy will not leave his wife for you. He is just having a bit of fun while the "divorce" goes through. If that is even true.

You are just getting played. Watch out. If all that matters to you is the sex and maybe stuff he buys you, just continue to play the game. Take as much as you can from this player, and find a better person to have a serious relationship with. Good luck =)

Answer 5

Why would you want someone who would cheat on his wife.
If and that's a big If, he does ever leave his wife, what makes
you think that someday he will not give you the same treatment.
Sometimes us women like to cheat with another woman man
because it makes us feel like we are better than them. Like when
he tells you that you do soooooo many things better than her.
If she do not know about you yet and you have mention that you
have been seeing him for about 2 years, odds are he do still
want her or love her and in some strange way, is protecting
her feelings from what you two are doing to her. And one more
thing and this is important, he may look at you now with lust or
interest however, but once you have him and you are finally
together, he might have regret on how he hurt his wife. This could
make him resent you. Do you think that you are better than
her or something! Let's face it, we all have problems in our
relationships and you are not solving his problems. Sooner or
later when you are all in love in stuff, this thing that you are doing
is going to happen to you with another woman he'll start to like.
If you want him you should step back and let him leave her
the respectful way and then atleast you will know that he is thinking with his heart and not with his D***! Could you handle
that OR are you afraid that you will see the truth about him or
yourself!
Remember What goes around, comes back around,

Answer 6

I guess the question you have to ask yourself at this point is if you would want to build your world around a man how is cheating on his wife. The right thing for him to have done was get a divorce before he started seeing you.

I would wonder exactly what he is telling his wife ... being in her shoes I sure wouldn't want him living in my house for two years while he is out seeing another woman.

Getting involved with a married man is never a good or smart thing to do ... might be time to do some soul searching on your part.

Good luck.

Answer 7

First of all, shame on you for having a sexual relationship with a married man. Nothing will ever turn out good for the two of you. And that one person is right...he will never leave her cause he has the both of you. I don't want to be rude, but you are fooling yourself if you think you and him will be happy together in the long run. He's cheating on his wife, who's to say he won't do the same s h i t behind your back.

Answer 8

This man has been with you for 2 years...while he is married. Does his wife know about you? If not, perhaps you should play the responsible adult role and ensure that she knows. If he freaks out and doesn't want you talking to his wife, then he is not divorcing her. The simple fact that you had to ask this question means that you have low self-esteem. You should go out and find a single man, becuase one this guy leaves his WIFE (if he ever does) then he will come home and sleep next to you, but be out sleeping with someone else. Think about it

Answer 9

Here is a quick in your face question to your question GIRL ARE YOU STUPID OR SOMETHING?
NO ! He is not going to leave his family for you. It is time for you to cut it off and realize that he is a liar and a cheat and if he leaves his wife for you and IF he ever marries you than you can bet your bottom dollar that he will never be faithful to you and if he is you will always question in your mind is he cheating on you. Why wouldn't he? He is cheating on his wife with you.
Face the fact you are having an affair with a man that belongs to someone else does this man have children? If he marries you are they going to except you as a step mother? Or are they going to hate and despise you?what about his relationship with his children? Are they going to spend time with him because the court says so and if so are you going to be able to spend time with them to? What about the wife are you going to be able to deal with him having to talk to her about the kids school and medical decisions? Will he be willing to have children with you?
Elizabeth take my advice you be the grown up here and break it off now. There are more factors here than will he leave her and move in with you. The fact that you are an adultress and are keeping a man from his family.
If he really loves you and you him break it off with him and tell him when he has a legal devorice in hand to call you up and ask you out like a real gentleman.
But I would like to suggest that you find an eligable man to love and a good place to start would be in a local church that offers a singles group or since you like the net try www.eharmony,com.

Answer 10

the first question is, why arent they divorced yet. you would tihnk this would be his number one priority, especially if he loves you so much. Second, does his wife know about you. this is very important. maybe you should take the initaitive and talk to her yourself. however, this may cause a bit of drama. and when i say a bit, i mean..possibly a lot. Make sure you're able to trust him. What if he's lying to you and really isn't getting a divorce and really isn't sleeping in a separate bed? i don't want to hurt your feelings or anything. i'm just trying to warn you. for your sake, i really hope he leaves his wife. talk to him. communication is spectacular. good luck : )

Answer 11

Unlikely.
1) It's been two years. Divorces don't normally take that long.
2) He goes home to sleep. Is it possible you are only his sex outlet?
3) Do you really want this man? He cheated on his wife with you. How long will it be before he cheats on you with someone else?