My wife had a boyfriend right when I met her. She forgets to log out of her email sometimes and I read her e-mails. I find out this guy contacts her and shes responding to this guy back. She has no reason to deal with this guy they have NO kids or anything why dosent she tell this guy to leave her alone or just stop replying all together? I work six days a week all day only God knows what shes doing behind my back. Is she cheating on me?
2006-07-04 11:28:59 · 81 answers · asked by Massa Bruce 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just ask her...
2006-07-05 17:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by dalia 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Is she supposed to have NO friends but you? Do her emails suggest anything other than that of a friend? Do ALL ex's have to be enemies? I have several ex's, all are friends, I don't mess around with them, but I stay in contact. Good grief. Friends are hard to come by, and what better friend could you have than one who knows you very, very well... and still likes you?
Trust is a funny thing...you can have it for all but a life time, but let one little thing pop up and poof...it is gone, you have her out screwing the milk man. Get a grip. If she has given you no indication of messing around, why are you up in arms about email that isn't incriminating. Give it a rest, ok! You can hire a PI, have her followed, and no matter how clean the bill comes back, you will still not trust her. I can only assume that you like feeling miserable. If so, be my guest. If not, you have no reason to be curious, distrustful, or anything else but relaxed. If there were something going on, there would have been something in the email, that is for sure! I would think you would trust her more today after seeing an innocent letter.
2006-07-04 11:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first off, reading her email is a no no. But I understand how you felt worried. I would not worry about the e-mails you find. Sometimes after a relationship you becoume friends. Great ways to know if she is cheating:
1. out later then normal
2. when ever she is out, when she comes back smell her clothing. And, smell the laundry, If there is any whiff of clounge, thats a big sign
3. If she becomes less interested in what you have to say to her
Try to be understanding. She may feel lonely with your gone so much. Take a day off of the job just for her, and talk to her. She will remember why she married you, and also take her somewhere she loves. Remind her that marrige is fragile. Remind her that you love her and would hate to lose her.
2006-07-04 11:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok she had a boyfriend when u met her. what exactly do u mean? u weren't tryna get with her too, were u? or were yall friends and u respected the fact that she had a boyfriend? whatever reason it may be u should talk with her in a calming matter and ask her what's going on between her and the other guy. and if this is her ex-boyfriend or something ur right they shouldn't have anything to do with each other if they don't have kids, because if someone once used to be together it doesn't take much chemistry for them to mess around again.
2006-07-04 11:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by hotgurl 04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question, first you must decide what you consider to be cheating is having intimate conversations enough or do there need to be some form of physical activity.
It sounds like you lost the trust fro your wife in your marriage, if you don't trust her you are going to start put walls up between the two of you.
You have to determine if your marriage is salvageable if so you might want to confront this issue and see what has to happen for the two of you to move forward otherwise you must decide if you are ready to move on with the rest of your life.
As long as you have doubts about her faithfulness you will not be able to give her your all.
2006-07-04 12:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by dscot399 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they are emailing doesn't mean she is cheating physically. You might tell her it would bother you if she was in touch with old boyfriends or that you would want to know. If you are working a lot she may be lonely, but, that is a opening that is very dangerous. If you don't want to pay for a detective, follow her emails. I'd say ask her, but, if she is cheating, she will probably lie. You need definitive information for your peace of mind. Good luck
2006-07-04 11:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by moonmother2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
brother man listen,if she ask funny and never calls you first anymore. don't have a Lot of sex even when you do have time,.she getting it from some were else. must likely kick that bit*h out she's a pus*y cat and doing you wrong. i hope you do better than that, your grown up now you should know better than to trust her after you just said she was in a relationship when you met her.if she broke up with him or going out with him and you at the same time then you should of married that chick. she probably was do you wrong from the begging you got with her. she left last boyfriend for you , you have to think,would she do it too you.i hope you find some body better than your wife.get it she and another dude is writing each other get her back and write a chick and leave your screen on and see how she like it.
2006-07-04 11:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by precious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. She needs someone to keep the loneliness at bay while you're working all day. Then again, maybe they're just friends (with benefits?). You should know your wife better than anyone on Yahoo Answers! You need to answer that question yourself. BTW If you have to ask, the answer is probably yes.
Oh, and about reading her email... If she didn't want you to read it, she wouldn't have left it there for you to find!! Maybe she's crying for attention and using it to tell you. Hmmmmmmmm.......
2006-07-04 11:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by No one of consequence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily, however, it will lead to a complication in your relationship. Take her out to dinner, talk about how it concerns you and how you want to put a lot of effort into your relationship with her and listen to what bothers her too. This is the hard work people talk about that you need to make a marriage work. Do it now, don't wait, don't give up and let her know how much you love her. ALOT!
2006-07-04 13:06:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you for reading her email. You don't have that right! Get over being jealous! I talk with my ex bf asometimes still to but theres nothing going on.If she is then she must still be happy with you or you would have been gone by now. Just talk to her calmly and with understanding if you can since you are nosey. Get a life! If she didnt trust you or didnt want you to know she would be deleteing them b4 you could see it. Who cares if she emails him or talks to him. They may still have a friendship hello!
not your business! Why don't you all go to dinner sometimes and be friendly? Don't worry about her cheating dude. Trust her and that she'll do right by you. ask her. take it easy and stop minding her business!
2006-07-04 11:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by mcalano77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your wife...Do you trust her? Confront her (in a non-hostile method). Ask her about the guy. They might just simply be friends, dont you have any female friends? Tell her that you are uncomfortable with the emails from this guy and calmly state your feelings. Try your best to NOT let this turn into a fight.
2006-07-04 11:32:54 · answer #11 · answered by trini_dude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋