She even said yesterday that she watched the movie " The Devil Wears Prada" and commented that once you get to a position so high up, you really HAVE to act like that. Those who heard her were appalled. Co-workers and other dept. directors hear how she talks to me all the time and are appalled. I am new at the job, and want to keep my job, but need a tactful way to deal with her.
2006-07-04 11:13:16 · 14 answers · asked by Smooch The Pooch 7 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Either put up with her behavior or start applying for a different job. Since she does this openly with everyone around, it's likely that this is her normal behavior and everyone knows it already, and so nothing will ever change.
It's likely her behavior drove the previous employee away and it's why you ended up with your new job. Ask around the office. It's better to work at a job where you are appreciated. Even if you stick around for a while, your experience will be wasted because you can't list her as a reference in the future.
2006-07-04 11:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must be young as most women over 30 know that being a real witch costs you good employees and gives them reason to sabotage your efforts every chance you get (maybe someone can drop an anonymous typed letter on her desk explaining why being a witch backfires in the real world).
The reality is that by being your boss, you are by definition - her underling.
Until you are there long enough to figure out who you can trust (that takes a bit) and maybe get to know those at her level or above, you can't do much but listen up and do her bidding. Once you know who you can talk to, you may be able to say something.
If you do it to the wrong person, it may cost you your job.
But karma has a way of getting back at this kind of person. Odds are if she's that bad, everyone will see it and someone who has the power to change things will take action.
Bide your time.
(and I do think the anonymous letter might be a great idea...or maybe email it from a fake email address at an internet cafe???)
2006-07-04 18:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way for me is to go home and vent just what she did that day and said that day, even if I'm venting on a chat site (others in your house may eventually get tired of hearing it) Then when she acts that way the next day at work, you know that in only a few hours you will be able to vent. This will save you the trouble of getting reprimanded, and also you might frankly hurt her feelings in a way because people like that usually don't have many friends or people that care about them so they have turned away from human kindness. Remember, the Bible says that the Lord will repay. One day she may come to you and apologize.
2006-07-04 18:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by Ilovechristjesustheking 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her issues with control and power get to you. Continue doing your job as best as you can. Don't listen to the way she orders you around - ignore how she says it - just listen to what she's requesting and hop to it. Your above that - don't sink to her level with any sort of response other then getting the job done! When she sees it doesn't bother you, she'll probably stop doing it and you'll look very professional at the same time! :-) Also, be sure you don't talk poorly about her - stay professional, she still afterall, is your boss!
2006-07-04 18:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by wondering in michigan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ARE an underling. So start acting like one and do what you are told. Otherwise, find a different job where you can be boss.
In the meantime, do everything she tells you to do promptly and more thoroughly than she expects. You may achieve a lot more by delivering beyond her expectations than by trying to figure out how to "handle" her.
2006-07-04 18:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by Kokopelli 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you get some standing with her, and some power (Amongst friends), bow your head and listen. You can quietly gather friends who agree with you in the work place. But for now, deal with it. You don't want to try something and lose your job.
You are an underling to her, so she will boss you around. It's her job, but she shouldn't take it to an extreme.
2006-07-04 18:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a sword whip (a sword that breaks to peices to make a whip as seen on soul caliber wielded by Ivy). Then whip her and say "Behave you cur'!!!! Lols just kidding report her to HER boss and if that does not work keep going higher. You sound like you have a lawsuit on your hands...
2006-07-04 18:19:21 · answer #7 · answered by Confused 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, You are an underling.
So you need to make a choice to stay with her, try to transfer to another department, or move to another company.
I would not bad mouth her to other people. That could kill your career at that company.
These are hard choices. But that is why you get to make them.
2006-07-04 18:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by god1oak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a boss' job is to create orders and organization, but it seems that it has gotten to her head... You should get a new job, or learn to deal with it...
2006-07-04 18:18:12 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Taryn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you are an underling. sounds like she is on a
power trip. i suggest you see if you can transfer to
another department. so long as she can get by with
her actions she will keep them up and trying to deal with
her on your own will get you 'squashed like a cockroach'
because to her that is all you are. good luck.
2006-07-04 18:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by agedlioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋