My husband has peter pan syndrome. He doesn't want to grow up and face the world. I feel like I am his mother and drag him and take care of him where he doesn't provide responsibility as a husband. My life became too hard ever since I married him. I feel like I have all the burden in our life. He is a nice guy but he is too immature and irresponsible. I don't want to live a like a mommy anymore. Any advice?
2006-07-04 11:03:21 · 8 answers · asked by whattodo898 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We were married for 5 years and have no kids. We are in our mid thirties.
2006-07-04 11:09:08 · update #1
I argued about it for last 5 years and he is still same person. (maybe with very small improvement)
2006-07-04 11:09:48 · update #2
Treat him as a husband and not as a mommy figure. Give him the chance to grow in your marriage and along beside you. You didn't say how old you were or how long you been married, but talk with him and let him know how you feel and that being overwhelmed isn't good for the marriage. Give him a chance before leaving.
2006-07-04 11:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone can be mature and responsible. It will be your responsibility to make the ultimate decision...he won't.
Being in a happy marriage is the best thing that can happen to two people. Imagine a time where no one has a real argument or a hurtful one. You just like each other too much to argue about small things. There really isn't anything to upset you in that kind of love affair. It's out there. It happens a lot. Think about what could be and make your decision. Let your husband know gently about your feelings. You just don't want to be a nag. He'll understand.
2015-04-12 12:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by Audrey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need no advice, nor will you take advice. I assume your husband has not changed one iota since, or before marrying him. It is just his nature to be irresponsible. If you cannot be the man of the family and provide the income while he stays home and plays at whatever he plays at, then you already have the answer. Things are not going to change, and I have no idea why you expected them to. Regardless of where the blame lies for the problems in your life, you must decide whether you are better off with him or without him. IT is your life, not mine. I must add that a little Peter Pan goes a very long way. Good luck
PS: we both know that talking will do nothing about this situation. Save your breath, buck up and do whatever you must do to get happy. You are going to have to do this by yourself. He is too busy fight Captain Hook and tending to Tinkerbell.
2006-07-04 11:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. though I love my husband ,i just feel so exhausted trying to make him grow up (been married 1 &1/2 yrs).and slowly losing respect for him.RESPECT is a vry essential part of marriage and I think you need to sit him down ,tell him how you feel about him and then just leave him alone for a month or 2.maybe you need a break as well.let him realize by himself.also I think maturity level of a human depends upon his experiences in life and if your husband is anything like mine,he needs to just survive on his own in this big bad world! I f he cant change atleast 50% of your expectations (to be fair ) then you need to move on.life is too short to beunhappy.maybe the time away from him will make you realize what he means to you as well
best of luck and dont let this get to you huny!
2006-07-08 04:15:08 · answer #4 · answered by hals 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but you need to move on, honey. If he's still irresponsible at 30-something, he will never change. If this is too hard for you, then don't do it anymore. You can't keep doing the same things over and over and expect different results. Life just doesn't work that way. Fortunately, since you have no children, and you are apparently able to take care of yourself and him both, you have what it takes to take care of yourself on your own. Go. Now.
Best of luck to you.
2006-07-04 11:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by redhatgirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't willing to grow up, be a mature responsible man and do his best to be part of a relationship that you both want and need then your choices are either put up with it or don't.
2006-07-04 11:07:56 · answer #6 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, The more you try to get someone to "grow up" the more they will resist. Does he "provide"? Did he "miss out" on his childhood? Eventually he will realize he looks stupid keeping up with the kids and the reality that the big FOUR-OH! is approaching may knock him in the head or, is he havuing one last shebang? Also is alcohol involved.....
2006-07-04 11:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by President Dante 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
separate. let him learn to make it on his own for a while. then see how you feel about it after a year. in the mean time, just be sure you don't get preggers...
2006-07-04 11:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋