2006-07-04 11:02:38 · 15 answers · asked by jay3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ummmm...mine MIGHT have survived the first time, but not the second, so I have no idea. You need to go talk to a counselor-I think you have some real issues for taking this person back.
2006-07-04 11:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult question for anyone but you to answer.
I can't tell if your male or female but it makes no difference.
One of the first things to look at is how does you partner feel about the affairs and are they very sorry they happened and that you were hurt by this.
I say this because I have been there. I was married to my first wife for 37 years. I did not know it but early in our marriage she had a total of 7 affairs. I was very good at hiding my head and she was very good at covering it up.
I did not find this out till many years later. It tore my heart out but after counseling I thought that what we had then was better. It was not and we are divorced. What I would not let myself see was how she reacted to my pain. Almost indifference. Hey....it happened a long time ago....get over it.
Pay attention to reality and you will have your answer.
2006-07-04 18:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person taking back a 3-time cheater is as emotionally disturbed as the cheater. Both need therapy - big time. As already said, this is a **pattern**. Three times and you are out! There is no marriage here to survive - it's already dead!
2006-07-04 18:37:54 · answer #3 · answered by moonmother2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By including a stupid partner who keeps taking the cheater back. One affair is forgiveable, two is a pattern, and three is a sure sign that somebody isn't going to change.
2006-07-04 18:05:22 · answer #4 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can it survive 1?
a marriage survives and grows stronger by dedication, committment and love - if the affairs keep happening, it means that none of those things are present... why stay?
2006-07-04 18:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by Kandela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to survive 3 affairs????
2006-07-04 18:05:00 · answer #6 · answered by *karasi* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should of left after the first affair
2006-07-04 18:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by browneyedgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is why are you still in a marriage with someone who keeps going elsewhere for sexual pleasure. if there are no kids involved then the l;onger you stay in this relationship the more you will be hurt.
2006-07-04 18:09:00 · answer #8 · answered by BarKim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really want it to survive...you have to not only forgive but vow to yourself never to open up the said matter again and double the love and intimacy for both of you...It happens when you remember and want to blurt it out..okay...but first count 1-100....after the counting it mellows and honors your vow of not talking about it
2006-07-04 18:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by mistyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the person who is forgiving the cheater, was also cheating 3 times behind his/her back. (simply do not care)
Or the person who is forgiving has low self-esteem and decides to take cheater's B--L S--t!
2006-07-04 18:15:35 · answer #10 · answered by whattodo898 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋