Will all real men please stand up?

Question

What happened to the great upbringing young boys use to have? Young boys were taught how to be a man, (including a gentlemen). Boys were made to be men who opened doors for a lady. Men who gave their seats for a lady. Men who wouldn't use vulgar language around a lady.

Men use to have a great pride. A man could be counted on to provide for his wife and children. Rich or poor, easy or hard, a man provided without excuse. A man couldn't look in the mirror unless he provided. Men use to risk their lives to protect a women. If he heard a scream, he was there. Big or small, strong or weak, he was there.

Men use to love to be a part of their childrens' lives. They were the fathers children could remember being told stories on the lap of. They were the fathers who were around to give a good spanking when needed. They were the fathers who taught their children the knowledge their fathers taught them.

Will all real men please stand up?!

Answer 1

I think that our North American society won't like this answer to this question.
Our liberal 'societal mores' have made it more acceptable to practice 'feel-good' ideals, and to let things slide rather than do things correctly.
The ultra-feminist movement has much to do with that, for instance, why would a woman INSULT a man that has just held a door open for her?
Why would a woman kill a baby before it's even born? Is that 'rights' being practiced, or female savagery? Humanity is ANGRY about that too, women are supposed to be the nurturing element in OUR society. Men apparently have no say in these issues.

Real men DO stand up, it's just a fact that they ARE fewer and farther in between, and if you want one, you have to LOOK past the BMW's, the fancy suits, the smartass jokers, the bikers, the druggies, the pimps, the politicians and the lawyers.

Good men ARE out there. We ARE standing up, but are mostly by-passed by women that are impressed more with money, status, power, careers, and 'feel-good' liberalism which destroys faith and respect for everyone--but mostly for themselves.

Answer 2

I'm sorry for what ever happened to you, but there are hundreds of thousands of just the type of fathers you are describing. They are the fathers you never hear about. They are they fathers who do cub scouts, or taught a couple years of Sunday School when the kids were little, but now might be one of the teen ministry volunteers at church. One may have taken the boys hunting when they were young and instilled the values of safety, respect for nature, and responsibility. Then he realized that the girls probably wanted to go too, so he took them one year without the boys. Most got off work for school plays and were always a regulars at open houses. If the million dollar question on Regis was "Which of these book titles was not a book by Dr, Seuss?" I would be a very rich father, I've probably logged more "Seusstime" than than Seuss himself. Yeah there are men out there who hold the door for ladies and for people who are older than them. They're my two sons who are 16 and 19. They were taught social etiquette when they were young.

Yes ma'am and no Sir were also taught and learned. They weren't drilled in either, they were just always reminded.

Yes there are gentlemen out here and we are trying to be sure that gentlemen are here to stay

Answer 3

I can't remember the author, but his book was titled "Iron John."

I've been pondering your statement for years. The book does a nice job explaining the results of boys raised by their mothers. A woman cannot raise a boy to became a man. It takes a man to raise a boy into manhood.

Boys resent their mothers terribly. They blame their mothers why dad isn't there (right or wrong). Mom is there (God bless) and she gets the fallout. (part of the evils of our society)

Somewhere along the way, I think capitalism, took over true patriotism. Throw in the "me decade" and your average man stopped thinking about others. (Frankly, so have so many women, and children. Capeche?) We've come off the biggest bull market in the history of the world. We're drunk with materialism. The binge isn't over either. America lives life with its cultural head between it's legs.

The offspring of the undisciplined are breeding and they are heaping horrors upon horrors.

Answer 4

Actually social climates change....I am amazed at what I see today too...I recall no in house running water, bathing in a round metal tub and bringing in the wood so Mom could get the wood-stove going to cook supper. I remember having no phone and being the first on the block to have a black and white TV...different generation and new generations want their offspring to have everything they did not have when they were young...no hand me down cloths....no wearing your sisters stuff and if it ain't designer it is no good....if you don't have a cell you are lower class and if you don't have a TV in almost every room of the house you are living behind the times....too many things handed to offspring without being worked for so it is expected without being earned....where are the real men.....and ladies for that matter....we are all on our downhill slide to seventy years old.....but then again....my parents thought we were spoiled because we got a 10¢ allowance every week

Answer 5

I'm up. But we could ask the same of all the real 'women". Over the years they seem to swear, smoke and spit much more than they used to. Not to mention a lot of them dress like street walkers. Put some clothes on for cryin out loud! And I'm talkin about all ages, from teen to late 40's. What happened to a nice dress and self-respect?

Answer 6

My husband, a British Army Officer was invited to stand when I read this question. He is educated, intelligent, chivalrous, handsome, protective, nurturing, strong, and kind, but as he would rather be dead than hit our children, I have told him to sit down, as apparently he doesn't meet the criteria!

Answer 7

Personally I think this has to do with ultra-feminism and a general degradation of society as a whole. Women aren't innocent of this stuff either. Some of the discussions women and even young girls have openly nowadays would have been entirely taboo to our grandparents, and even our parents! Discussion of masturbation, sex, etc. is commonplace with both genders nowadays. Like I said, degradation of society.

Answer 8

I must say that i agree with you completely....for some reason our society has changed for the worst!!!! Maybe someday, men, will become more of the gentlemens that they once were!! Untill then, keep looking, there are some out there you just have to find them!!!! good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

To stand or not to stand ...thats not the question
It depends on how you define masculinity.
Today's men are contrary to what has been stated above and if such people are standing I would rather lie down.

Answer 10

Ok here I am...

Do you really want to know what happened?
The 60's happened.
Drugs, Peace, free love, no laws, no discipline, no respect.
These are the same people that are running our country today!!!