others did it, her cousins, it was greatly upsetting to my friend & her mother too; they , the jean wearers, were clueless, 20-somethings. idiots, like they d'idnt care as long as they were comfortable' thas what one said, I was livid, it was the most selfish thing i heard is yrs.
2006-07-04 10:11:40 · 13 answers · asked by tally m 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
that's soooooooooooo wrong. Why bother going if you're not evren going to show that little respect. Its not about you its about the person who died and their family and if you wont even take the time to put some decent clothes on then don't bother coming.
2006-07-04 10:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by green123 3 · 0⤊ 5⤋
I grew up that a funeral was a suit & tie kind of thing. DARK suit. Ladies wore DARK dresses.
I live in a different area now. They wear jeans and a nice shirt to funerals. In fact they wore jeans and a nice shirt to my wedding. I have to admit I found it a bit disrespectful. Just last week I went to a "Family Visitation" (day before the funeral - at the funeral home) - the deceased's brother, a rather old man, was wearing his "Good Overalls". *sigh*
Anyway - I'm learning to get over the "dress code" I grew up with and learning to accept that these people aren't there to be seen, but are there to grieve, and remember the life of the dearly departed. Wear what makes your comfortable. If you feel you must wear a suit - suit up. If you feel you need to dress down to fit in with the locals and not draw attention to yourself - dress down. Try not to get hung up on fashion - it's a funeral - not the red carpet at the Oscars. There's more than enough emotions at something like this without getting obsessed about people's choice of clothes.
I'm sorry for your friend's loss. I'm sure it's a loss to you too.
God Bless!
2006-07-04 10:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by mcdane01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is o.k. to. However it is extremely improper.
Think of it like this: Some people like to get married in jeans and a shirt or even have really wierd weddings. Does that make the wedding any less of a wedding. They are still getting married, so the end is the same.
The other thing I want to point out is this. The most important thing at any of these types of services is that you show up.
Someday when my funeral is I don't want people not to come, just because they can't find or afford a proper outfit.
2006-07-04 10:25:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it's not REALLY okay. Funerals/Wakes are meant to be a time for grieving and you are supposed to dress nicely. But in some situations, there's no choice. You either go naked or you put on your nicest pair of jeans. My uncle died a few weeks ago and to his burial, my boyfriend wore jeans. I think everyone was more thankful that he was there wearing jeans than if he wouldn't have come at all. I understand why people would be upset, though. If they have the time to go out and buy something nice, then they should have definitely done that rather than go in their street wear. But, they might not of had that option.. So at least they came to show their respects.
2006-07-04 10:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by controlless_poet 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think people should wear their best clothes. Although I find it hard to believe, I guess some people don't own dress pants, shorts, or suits and If they can't borrow something from someone else they have no choice. I do find it alittle disrespectful, but it is better to go and show respect than not to be there.
2006-07-04 10:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man o man, you are anti-jeans by the sound of it, your last question being my source. But yeah, I guess it is rather anti social to wear jeans to a funeral. Were they wearing them with t-shirts or nice shirts and blouses though, in their warped sense of what is right they may have seen it as okay. That's the problem with todays kids...but what can we do, their parents didn't take the problem into hand for fear their warped little kids would get child welfare on their butts....that's why i'm not having kids..but oops, I lost the track of this question. No it wasn't right.
2006-07-04 10:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by MzzandtheChuchuBees 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Of course it's not OK to wear jeans to a wake. What ignoramuses! This is not a matter of "casual" dress, it's a matter of respect. Some times one must not put themselves first.
2006-07-04 10:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by limeyheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you-it was really disrespectful-you should've thrown them out unless they have no other clothes and couldn't afford to buy something to wear.
2006-07-04 10:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by MAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are carrying a shovel, nobody will notice the jeans.
2006-07-04 13:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been to two funerals and a wedding, and worn jeans to all of them. I'm a casual dresser.
2006-07-04 10:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋