2006-07-04 09:59:44 · 7 answers · asked by heart4brains 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My sister and I are 14 months apart and we still have some serious trouble with sibling rivalry. In our case, we're both talented in different areas and have a tendency to consider ourselves superior in every way, instead of just in certain areas.
My sister, for example, is amazingly sensitive and empathetic, but she struggles a lot academically. I have a 90% average and schoolwork comes easily to me. She would get upset when she saw my watching t.v. or talking to my friends while she had to sit doing homework (she's a very active person who has difficulty sitting still for long periods of time), and this caused tension between us. I felt bitter whenever I had to pick up the slack by doing her chores because she was too busy working. So the simple fact that I got better grades than her caused this extreme feeling of hatred which filled our shared bedroom.
If your sons' situation is like ours, try to help each child with the individual stresses which affect their lives. Make sure that one child does not have to pick up the slack for the other. Try to encourage their independent talents-instead of encouraging a few certain characteristics which they may have trouble living up to, appreciate all of their personality traits.
However, if they are both gifted at the same thing(s), (for example, if they are both amazing hockey players), than help them to develop skills outside of the hockey arena. One son may take up swimming, while the other may discover his talents in the kitchen. This will build both self-confidence and social skills as they meet new friends who share their interests.
Whichever method you chose will take some time, but they're better than quick band-aid solutions like taking away priviledges. In the long run, you're boys will grow to respect and appreciate each other's unique talents. Hopefully.
2006-07-04 10:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by Linda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind them that the only ones in life that will always be there is your brother. Also, talk to them to find out why they don't get along. Sometimes it's because they are fighting for your attention or they think the other one gets more attention than the other one.Either way, try to make them almost need each other, but don't force it because in most cases, it will resolve itself.
2006-07-04 10:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do your parents say or do about this? Is he in trouble at school, what are his friends like, does he have friends? His behavior makes no sense. He may need professional help. The 2 little girls need to be protected and he has to be kept away from them until he has control of himself. You are not doing anything wrong in addressing this problem. You have to have help in dealing with this. Your parents are responsible and have to take charge of this situation. I really hope he gets the help he needs or your sisters may not come out of this OK. Best Wishes
2016-03-27 03:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by Loretta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was always taught to fight my own battles. Try letting them duke it out. If it gets too rough then split them. Usually parents tend to pick sides and that makes for jealousy issuses wich will create a bigger problem.
-hope it helped
2006-07-04 10:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it where they are the only kids around and they can't go out and play with other kids. Give them a project to do together and reward them equally.
2006-07-04 10:13:32 · answer #5 · answered by ima_irish_hick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what my parents did to me with my brother is they seperated us for a couple days and thats when we realilzed that we needed each other. it may reduce fighting kuz they realize that they care more about each other. hope it helped.
2006-07-04 10:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by bitter_sweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kill my little brother everytime he pisses me off haha
2006-07-05 03:18:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋