To the parents of a gay lez or bi child …?

Question

Hello. I was wondering, how did you discover your child was gay? How did your child tell you he/she was gay? How did you react to this news? Did discovering that your child was gay change your views on gay people/ gay marriage ? Did you think that your child was gay before they confirmed it? Thanxz for your answeres. The more truthful they are the more helpful.

Answer 1

Before my daughter told me I knew. But, I let her work things out for herself. When she decide to tell me, my response was I already knew for a while. that was that. I was never opposed to gay anything, they have rights just like straight people do. I think gays should be allowed to marry and adopt/have children. Its their right to make the same mistakes as heterosexuals do. To love, fight, make up, and realize that the world as a society should not judge them for whom they love, but who they are as a person, /couple.

Answer 2

I really wish I had been born later. I probably would not be married and would have excepted my sexuality easier. I think in this culture coming out is so much different than when I was young. I grew up in the 70's and early 80's homosexuality was not seen in quite the same light it is now. Coming out in the south was not an option. Even now in my home town there are a lot of gay and bisexual married men my age.

Answer 3

From the perspective of a gay child: my mom found out when my older brother told her that my "best friend" was actually gay, so she asked me if we were in a relationship and I was honest with her. She cried for about half the day. Naturally she told my dad, who was homophobic... but strangely he accepted it far more easily than she did; his views quickly changed and he became far more tolerant. They struggled with it for about two months, not knowing what to do, particularly because they thought my younger brother was the gay one and not me... so it was more like a shock thing. My mom had gay relatives, but it's so much more different to have a child who is gay.

In a few months, my relationship with my parents became much better. It just took them some getting used to, and they just needed time to accept it the way I did.

Answer 4

If that is about love no longer gender then why are you bothering to label your self as bisexual? merely get available with an open ideas and discover someone particular. each and absolutely everyone is attracted to both sexes to three volume, so what's the point of labeling your self like that? i do not comprehend, the very incontrovertible reality that you will be o.ok.with courting an exceedingly outstanding lady would not look significant adequate to make a huge deal of telling your mom. i'd imagine that all people would flow lez for someone in the adventure that they were ideas-blowingly outstanding adequate. relax and end attempting to label your self.

Answer 5

my 2nd child was different.........I figured there was a good chance he was gay.........He came out during a traumatic time in his life.......he had a psychotic break at 17 and while the meds were bringing him back around, out it popped........I tried to stop him from saying it at that very moment simply because I knew he wasnt totally himself and his father was sitting right there........maybe it was the right time........dad is pretty good about it now, but it really threw him to hear it come out like that....me? Since I always knew, I was glad it was out in the open....it took him about a year or so to let the rest of the family know....

Answer 6

Thought I would link this question with a PFLAG site so parents of lesbian, bi, or gay children have something to look at if they are reading this that could help.
http://www.pflag.org/Getting_Support-Coming_Out.coming_out.0.html