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Well I thought that I was Pregnant and ended up starting my period today..I've been very upset because of it..my husband doesnt understand why i'm so upset, he says we have a long time to have another baby(our daughter is 16mths) I'm young..22...and he's 31..I want to have our children close in age so they would have someone to grow up with and have a play mate..I'm also scared that something might be wrong with me..i concieved my daughter within 4mths of dating my husband and we have never used protection..I have my yearly pap smear and everything comes back neg. I dont know what else to do..if seems like my husband doesnt care but he says he wants to have at least 2 more kids...I'm just needing some advise.. Please no immature answers or I will report it!!

Answer 1

WELL I HAVE THREE KIDS A 7 YEAR OLD A 3 YEAR OLD AND A 2 YEAR OLD BUT NOT PLANED IN ANYWAY. IT WAS JUST WHAT GOD WANTED FOR ME. I DONT UNDERSTAND WHY I HAD MY KIDS SO CLOSE TOGETHER BECAUSE IT IS A DAILY STRUGGLE, IT IS LIKE HAVING TWINS BUT THE TERRIBLE TWOS LAST LONGER BECAUSE WHEN ONE IS GOING OUT THE OTHER IS RUNNING AT IT HEAD ON AND THEN THEY WANT TO ACT LIKE EACH OTHER BUT GOD MUST OF HAD A PLAN FOR THEM OR ME. ANY WAYS WHEN THE TIME IS PERFECT FOR YOU THE BABY WILL COME GOD KNOW WHEN THE BABY IS READY TO COME AND BLESS YOU

Answer 2

I can relate!! When I got my period when my husband and I were trying to conceive, I was *hearbroken*!! I did get pregnant shortly afterwards, but I still remember how awful I felt...

A pap smear has nothing to do with fertility. It only checks for cancer. If you have cancer, you are probably infertile, but not having cancer doesn't guarantee that you *are* fertile.

The first thing I would suggest is that you learn about your body and how to recognize when you are most fertile. That is the single most important thing you can do to increase your chances of getting pregnant. You need to chart your basal body temperature and cervical fluid. It is a fairly simple process, but the explanation is long (lots of different variations to explain; only a small amount of which will apply to you, but you never know which part!!). I would suggest you read _Taking Charge of Your Fertility_ by Toni Weschler. It explains everything in much more detail than I could in a few paragraphs...

Answer 3

I was 10 days late on my period and I thought that I was fianlly pregnant, of course I wasn't. I have no children yet and I have been trying for about 2 years now with no luck. You are lucky to at least have 1 for now.
I do know how disappointed you feel though, I deal with it too every month. I think that your husband is trying to be supportive, but I think men handle their emotions a lot differently. Also, the stress is all on you and I know how that feels. I cannot tell you how to concieve because I have not found out myself, and I can't tell you not to be upset, but I can tell you that life goes on and there is a reason for everything. Maybe, like me, it's not your time yet.

Answer 4

Don't worry. In the old days with no birth control
people didn't go around having kids back to back
all of the time. Just relax and be patient.

Answer 5

Just keep trying you'll get one someday:) or adopt thats what my aunt did and then a year later she got pregant. If you think something is wrong with you just go see your doctor but everything will turn out okay :)

Answer 6

I'm sorry things aren't working out the way you wanted them to. I'd be more worried about his sperm not being good. Get him checked out first. This is next to impossible but try not to be stressed. Being stressed out could make it harder for you to get pregnant.