Does sex hurt for the first time?

Question

well, i am positive that i have found the right guy to have it with. And we've talked about it and we both feel like its the right time. But it is my first time, and i am scared of how it may hurt.. how does it feel?

Answer 1

We're going to skip the insulting preliminaries about "being too young" and not knowing your own mind. I'm going to assume that you are indeed, a responsible, mature young lady.

You're a big girl, now, and you can make your own damned decisions.

To answer your question: It's different for every girl. Usually what causes pain when you lose your virginity is the stretching or tearing of the hymen. This is where it gets subjective: some girls have already torn their hymen by the time they have sex, usually as part of a normal, active lifestyle. Other girls have stretchy, or "elastic" hymens, which stretch instead of tearing. Some girls are born entirely without hymens, while some girls have really thick ones. The point of this is that each girl is unique, which makes it a little hard to answer your question.

In most cases, there is some discomfort with initial penetration, and if you have a hymen, there will probably be pain, and a little bleeding (After all, you're not used to having a penis in there!), but it's usually mild to moderate and fades quickly. In order to make things as wonderful as humanly possible, it is SUPER-DUPER, AMAZINGLY important that you take things slow the first few times. Make sure you're fully aroused, and please, for the love of all things sexual, use some water-based lube (petroleum-based lube can dissolve latex condoms). If you experience discomfort or pain, slow down, and wait a bit before proceeding.

Also, please be aware that for most girls, the first few times are kind of disappointing when it comes to the actual sex...it takes a while to find your rhythm and discover what you like. So, go forth, be safe, and, above all, HAVE FUN!

If you have more questions, or if you just feel like poking around, I might recommend www.scarleteen.com, these guys helped me out a lot in my teen years (and beyond). They provide honest, clear information about sex, sexuality, your body, and a bunch of weird stuff that us girls think about.

Answer 2

-Yes it does hurt. A young woman's body has not completely developed even though "emotionally" and "physically" you may "feel" you are ready. There are so many more risks- emotional and physiological that are involved. Remember you have a hymen inside your body and you are considering having that hymen broken. Some hymens are very thin and will break with ease - others have thicker hymens and it make take a considerable amount of pressure and pushing to force entry. You will not feel comfortable with this. And many women, bleed. I don't want to scare you, and I dont' know how old you are, but I would definitely consider and REconsider this step. Please take the time to talk to an adult: mom,dad, uncle, aunt, counselor, teacher. Also, do some research. There are books available that will explain the entire first time process.(everyone's experience if different!) Many young people think they are ready and find that even being "in love", you might hate your boyfriend later - especially if he is not sensitive to your feelings. Please don't - not yet.


If you want to talk to someone, I am willing to help you. I am no expert, but I am a teacher and mother and have had this discussion with so many young women too numerous to count. I will give you good and positive information only to help you.
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Answer 3

Please wait! It is not going to make you excited and sharing it with someone other than your husband for the first time will destroy you later in life. It's a closeness thing dude and it hurts a lot the first time. A LOT! You need someone there who will love and hold you after words and for the rest of your life. Wait till you marry it will still hurt but it won't leave any scars that you can't get over without love and tenderness. You don't know if this guy will stick around or not. Respect yourself and wait! Pray about it ! good luck

Answer 4

It hurts like crazy and you will bleed maybe 3 days afterwards. You will walk funny and feel totally different. I remember it hurt really bad for me but once it's over it doesn't hurt. If you're sure you've found the right guy then he will do everything he can to make sure that you feel comfortable and you aren't in too much pain.

Answer 5

First of all dont have sex if youre r under 17 if youre 14-16 just start with a kiss what so good about sex anyway and it does hurt for the first time thats what I heard dont you use tampons

Answer 6

Well, if you are not at least 17 then don't have sex. Talk with your mommy about why not. If you are 17 or older then yes, it probably will hurt. Didn't you learn in health class that the first time your hymen will be broke and you will bleed a little?

Answer 7

It weill hurt, especially if he is tearing your hymen for the first time. There will be blood and some pain, but it fade.

My first suggestion is to wait. What's the big hurry for sex? It will alter the realtionship.

If you are bound and determined to go through with this, he wears a condom, no exceptions! Lots of lubrication and take your time.

Answer 8

o0k first up let me tell u mama im st8 up dnt suga coat S***. every h0meb0ii wanna have sex. You kn0w we all think there alwayz dat 1 just b sure mama b sure cuz if n0t wen he rip n dip ur g0nna have the biggest heartbreak in da w0rld. Yes it d0es hurt AL0T!!!!!!!!!! n0 j0ke especially if he g0t a few yearz 0n u gurl damnit man it hurtz. per0 make sure hez da right dude n als0 make sure itz da right tym remember 0ur b0dies r still gr0wing sexual interc0rse can be very danger0us to our bodies.

P.S stay protected n0 matter wat u can get pregnet first tym n even on some occasions 0f ur peri0d!

Answer 9

yes only for the female because your cherry has to be popped. You will bleed and that is normal. make sure u use safe sex. remember once you do it there is no getting it back. You should get married first. that way you know the one you are going to sped the rest of your life with is your first and only. my wife never regreted her first and we are happ as can be. please rate mine number one.

Answer 10

It seems like he has some experience and after discussion and study, you will enjoy, rather than get hurt!