I was asked by my friend to go to her house and collect her purse as she'd left it at home, and bring it with me on my shift tonight. We work in the same place. Anyway, hubby was meant to be in America, so i let myself in with her spare key, picked up her wallet, and as i was about to leave i heard the toilet flush. The house was supposed to be empty, so without thinking i ran upstairs and found a naked man leaving the bathroom heading towards my friends bedroom. He looked horrified, so suspicious now, I barged past him and entered the bedroom to find my friends husband in bed. He made the usual excuses, and then begged me not to say anything. But my friend and i tell each other everything. I have to face my friend at work tonight, and dont know if i can not tell, but is it best to stay out of her relationship and say nothing?
2006-07-04 09:04:41 · 20 answers · asked by Mummy of 6 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
dont get involve when th s*** hits the fan u r gonna be the one in standing there
2006-07-04 09:10:39 · answer #1 · answered by franko T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are a true friend you need to tell her. Imagine if you were in her place, wouldn't you want to know? If you say nothing and she ever found out you know she would be angry. Be a friend and tell her. It might cause a lot of hurt at the time but in the long run she will thank you for it.
2006-07-04 09:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by whitney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with the husband and let him know that you will give him x time to tell your friend about what's going on or you will tell her.
This is too serious not to butt in. You have hard evidence that you witnessed. You're friend could be at risk for catching an STD.
2006-07-04 09:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by hollylitespeed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her. If he likes men, he might not just be bi-sexual he might be gay and unhappy in this marriage. She is being betrayed so it's not a healthy relationship for her either. Also, if he is sleeping around she might be in danger of catching a sexually transmitted disease.
You caught them for a reason... the truth is ready to come out. It won't be easy but I think all parties will thank you eventually.
2006-07-10 02:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by Queen Victoria of Port 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not tell your friend. Wait and talk to the husband, give him an ultimatum-- either you tell your wife what is going on or i will be forced to tell.It is really none of your business but she is your buddy and i get that. Be more concerned of your friend getting aids. Or maybe she knows?
2006-07-04 09:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell her, her husband has something to tell her. If she found out the hard way, and then found out that you knew and hadnt told her it would break her heart, twice.
Imagine being in her shoes? How would you feel knowing she knew something like that.
Its her husbands place to come clean, so you should tell her that he has something to tell her and then ring her to make sure he hasnt made something up.
2006-07-04 09:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by Wicked Top. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your friend, i know i would want to know being in that situation, it maybe hard as sometimes love is blind and she may go into denial but a true friend would tell them. At least you would know you are not guilty of hiding secrets and lying to her. She will thank you in the end.
2006-07-04 14:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, you need to tell your friend...think how you would feel if she knew the same about your husband but did not tell you? You owe it to her...then be her friend and support her during this very difficult time
2006-07-04 11:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by amelia_madeline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it might at first cause tension between you both; you need to tell her the truth. The truth is always best and she will thank you later
2006-07-04 09:10:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to tell her first,if he doesn't then you do it.Give him a time limit.(say,the end of the week) If he's not honest with her then you should immediatly tell her.Come on,she is your mate.You don't want her to be lied to or cheated on,she deserves better than that.Men come and go,but your friends are always there for you.Would you want her to tell you if it was your man being unfaithfull.
2006-07-04 11:24:59 · answer #10 · answered by jomom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say nothing she will never forgive you. You should say something especially as you are close. Shame you couldn't get a private detective to get proof though.
2006-07-04 09:12:52 · answer #11 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋