2006-07-04 08:36:53 · 13 answers · asked by lewishope@btinternet.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get a good Cognitive Behavioural therapist & perhaps somebody who can do EMDR (eye movement desensitisation & reprogramming).
Both can help with your issues and iare short term, so you can see benefits reasonable fast (within a few weeks)
Your GP will be able to refer you to a CBT practitioner other wise, check ouot the BABCP website or here's a website for more therapy info:
http://www.patient.co.uk/showdoc/27000216/
2006-07-06 10:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by rikpik 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You could start working on that agoraphobia. Being fearful of the world out there is very depressing to anyone. Please seek counseling for that. People get over it all the time with a little help.
As for your husband, perhaps he drinks because he feels his life is also crap? If the two of you can work together........you could start venturing out more and he could drink less often.......you could actually build a life that isn't all crap.
There are so many things to do it's mind boggling. Charities that need your hands-on help. There are churches and community events that are so much fun and bring you closer to your neighbors too. There are sports to participate in or even to just enjoy watching.
If the drinking doesn't lessen, he may need to find a local AA group and start participating. One of the best things they do is to show people a better way to live their lives.
None of us have much information when we come here, so it's a learning process. Don't be shy and cheat yourself out of a wonderful existence.
Best of luck to you both.
2006-07-04 08:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by purplewings123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age, you have your PC and that is all you really need. If you're afraid to leave your home, then use it to have your food delivered, to keep up with the world, and to have contact with others. You could kick him out and survive.
It's not much of a life, though. Honey it sounds like you're about to give up. You need to contact a therapist that can help you with this fear you have. Maybe you can get some anti-anxiety meds that will help you cope, or maybe hypnosis.
Your partner may drink because he/she is miserable and doesn't want to leave you alone because he/she knows that they are all you have. You're miserable because you have to live this way. You need to find someone to lead you out into the world again. Your little corner of the world isn't feeling any safer to you than the world outside your door. You need to conquer this, before something bad happens to you.
2006-07-04 08:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcholics have friendships too. Problem is, their friends are those who can provide them with their next drink. They won't change until they want to for themselves too.
Best thing to do is leave and move on. Learn how to trust yourself again and open the doors to anyone who enters your life that is new. Give the new people a fair and equal chance at knowing you and your heart .
Working through personal issues are best done when we have trusting friendships around us. They can always provide us with the confidence and the will to find a solution too.
2006-07-04 08:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No good asking anyone else- you know the answer already. Get treatment for the agrophobia and dump your partner. Get a life before its too late; remember, the first step is the worst, after that, youre home and free!!!!
2006-07-05 00:12:34 · answer #5 · answered by k0005kat@btinternet.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont know if you are male or female. get rid. nobody needs that in their life. may be the reason you are agrophobic. dont let it bring you down any more
2006-07-04 08:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have generalized anziety disorder and panic attacks. my husband doesn't understand either and he thinks it's not real. but he is my "safe" person and most of the time he supports me. i couldn't beleive what my life would be like without him (not just because he's my security blanket, i love him with everything i am), so i kinda understand your situation. but would you rather be miserable in a bad relationship when there could be so much more out there for you. you could find someone who understands you and who will support you. go for it and make sure you have your medication. lol with you not at you. everything will work out sweetie!
2006-07-04 08:46:32 · answer #7 · answered by aj607 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don,t know what agoraphobic means but it does not sound good. be for I got him to drink more I would get a big life policy on him then when you will be in good shape
2006-07-04 08:49:31 · answer #8 · answered by stuartandgarmin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call a therapist, maybe they will come to you. YOu really dont have to live this way, although I am sure you feel like you do not have a choice. You can get better, and I dont mean by forcing yourself outside; you can get better and actually WANT to go outside. Please call and get help!
2006-07-04 08:40:16 · answer #9 · answered by LuLuBelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him... Encourage him to drink a little bit more
2006-07-04 08:39:49 · answer #10 · answered by Ray 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋