i am 13 and i want to have sex i think its because i was sexually molested. but im not sure i want to have sex so badly but al i do is satisfy myself because im scared of being in that kind of situation again. i am very mature for my age i look like im 18 and i really would love to have someone but i know it isnt right so should i have sex and conqure my fear of having someone or should i just stay in fear of men for the rest of my life?
2006-07-04 08:31:16 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yeah, you really need to talk to someone about this who you trust. It doesn't have to be a parent and it shouldn't be a friend, but like a teacher or counselor who can give you advise with wisdom beyond your years. Definately wait.
Don't post these questions on such an open thing like this, though, there are alot of sickos out there...
2006-07-04 08:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by Some Guy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, no you shouldn't have sex at your age. If you were sexually molested then you are already scared deeply in your heart and you don't even know how much. You will realize when you are older. Take it from me a 37 year old woman please wait. I know now adays there are all kinds of peer pressures out there, but if someone is pressuring you i promise they are not your friend. It doesn't make you more mature or make you more of a woman. If you wait until you marry you will have so much respect for yourself as well as the man you meet one day. It's morally wrong and physically and mentally God didn't make you ready at 13 to have sex. (If you are calling it sex your not ready it is making love) Something God meant for one man and one woman to have) Search your soul and pray to the Man Above He will help you through this and give you the answers. Please wait! You have your whole world ahead of you to experience these things at the right times. Even if you look 18 (on the outside) you are only 13 inside. You could get into a pattern of not trusting men yes. Most men and teenage boys only want one thing and that is sex. But, don't think they will respect you afterwords, because they won't. You can share this experience with any one, but when you find the person that you will be with forever and you truly love there is nothing like it. Remember, there is nothing you can do to take it back. It hurts and (heart) scars don't heal easily. I hope this helps.
2006-07-04 15:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by teacher1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mother, or other trusted adult and ask if you could go to counseling. This will help you deal with the afteraffects of being molested so that you can have a normal sexual life when you become an adult. At your age, you are too young to have sex and to understand all the ramifications of sex. Having sex right now would cause you to have more problems, and won't allow you to deal with your emotions from having been molested.
2006-07-04 15:39:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Pastafarian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would wait to have sex. I have been through situations similar where you wonder whether or not to have sex because of it, and since you are so young I would wait. The only reason i say this is because you should get to trust and be friends with some guys in your school so that you cn learn to trust men again. I was raped this past year so i know how hard that kind of thing can be because I have had a hard time trusting any other men other than my fiance. It is your decision, but please remember it is your virginity to give.
2006-07-04 15:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by mandi88_bailey05_ray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No just talk to someone that have being though the same thing that you have ..and share your thoughts..And I also.Well i think that you should go sit down with your mother and tell her how you feel cause it is just a thing that you are going though. Every woman does but that do not mean that you have to respond to that . Ask your mother to talk to you about sex and if you can hold on to othe feelings you have until you is older and to you find that speical person when you are older ..ok...having sex is not a matter that you should jump in to so fast ..be very wise and safe before having sex.
2006-07-04 15:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by sexyblackgal29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no talk to some one about it maby a teacher or a parent and you should not stay in fear of men but keep your virginity for at least three more year thirteenis way to yong to have sex my gandmother went from virgin to wife then to mother there is always a chance that you'll get pregnent and then it will destroy your plans for the future you will have to balance taking care of your baby and collage take it slowly you should not rush yourslf you could get hurt by thepersonyou have sex with her could come back an d call you a slut and leave for someone with a bigger cest and butt if you need more addvice i will contact me you will find out how when you read and click my avatar
2006-07-04 15:49:02 · answer #6 · answered by Lena Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree wait! Talking with a professional after an event as traumatic as molestation would be very beneficial to you. If your parents cannot afford it there are places that would provide counseling at no charge. Get the help you need, and if the person who molested you is still out there running free call the authorities.
2006-07-04 15:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by asitcomes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fear. You are having sex ( a very tame and safe kind for now) and 5 years will pass quickly you will mature even more and Voila the time will come as will you...
2006-07-04 15:35:33 · answer #8 · answered by readthesmile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having sex at this ege is not gonna cure ur fear for men. if u really do fear men then why are u interested to have sex? get a boy friend.. that might help.
2006-07-04 15:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once again...your father has damaged you and you're trying to fix that damage. Sex at 13 is just a REALLY BAD IDEA!!! Seek counseling, please. Right away, today. Call social services, talk to your grandparents, something, but get some REAL help now!
2006-07-04 15:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by Matt B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋