A while back at a party i was with this girl... we were both 4 tequila shot and numerous beers in and were feeling pretty good.. so we go upstairs and she starts getting frisky... it felt great but i just couldnt do it.. i speant that whole night in my room listening to Led Zeppelins stairway to heaven and Pink Floyd's hey you.. i felt really depressed... Is there any thought on why this happen?
2006-07-04 08:24:27 · 13 answers · asked by Stevenson J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't think about it, bro. I know it was beginning to "feel" good, and you wonder "What if..." but getting depressed about it == well, it's silly.
And a waste of energy.
If she was special, you don't have to get boozed up to enjoy her. Getting plastered just lowered your inhibitions. However, unlike the beer ads on TV, alcohol does NOT help your sex drive.
Be grateful you didn't have sez with her while you were drunk. It would only cheapen the relationship. You're worth more than a one-night thing.
Move on, and guard your soul.
2006-07-07 19:35:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sage 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you realized that you didn't really know her well and that is also a sign that your a good person inside too.
Having to play the game of life and do things that you don't want to until you fully understand it is only normal and natural.
Be thankful. You will always remember this as a positive step in your personal development too. No matter what, don't get depressed. Remember, there are people out there who have done the same thing and are very sad because they caught something in the process because they didn't know the person they were screwing.
I'm safe though. So are you.
2006-07-04 08:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that depends on why you couldn't do it. I don't want to go on a rant but the "why" is why. Was it because the alcohol in your system prevented you from getting an erection? Was it because her breath reeked of alcohol or smoke (if she had smoked)? Was it because she wasn't physically appealing to you (everyone who's cute isn't always attractive---marinate on that for a minute, why don't 'cha?)? Could it be that you're a respecting, decent person who has some moral fibers left in your social conscience?
Whatever and whichever, you should feel wonderful about yourself for not doing something that very well could have affected both your lives...sometimes it's best to not have and wondered why not than to have had and wonder why.
2006-07-04 08:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by R C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have a good conscience. I think you didn't do it because you knew that you and her had both had some drinks and you didn't want you or her to regret anything the next day. It could also be that you didn't know the girl well enough to sleep with her. Perhaps you associate sex with love which is how it should be) and there was no love involved.
2006-07-04 08:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to be depressed. Maybe you were too excited, anyway it doesn't matter why you stop the important thing is that you stop. You never know what might have happen, espeacially, since you guys were drinking. God work in misterious way, think of it as a sign from god telling you to wait.
2006-07-04 08:41:39 · answer #5 · answered by nclsmpsn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dont worry about it!!! your (guy) friends might think that something is wrong with you but there isnt. i think that its really cool that you didnt want to do it. some guys will just do it so they can brag to their friends even though it didnt mean anything to them. i know what im saying may not make you feel better, but i think that its awesome that you said no when you didnt feel right about it!
2006-07-04 08:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u thought that things wouldnt have happened this way if u were both sober... so u didnt do so u wouldnt regret anything... if u know u will see this girl again she probably has more respect for you... if not then shes an idiot.
2006-07-04 08:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by Velvet Rain Drops 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well did you stop because it would have been just a F***. If that is the reason, because there was no feelings involved the "congrats" to you... Only you know why you stopped...
2006-07-04 08:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by Funny Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So it means that she isnt cute.
If she that hot, I am sure you dont need 4 shoots before making this statement!
2006-07-04 08:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's that you just wasn't ready for that as yet
2006-07-04 08:26:54 · answer #10 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋