my husband cheated on me i haven't really 4 gave him yet but he thinks i have and now he has kids with some 1 else and he wants me 2 watch his kids now an i have a child 2 take care of 2 yesterday i went 2 my parents house should i go back or what?
2006-07-04 08:10:48 · 30 answers · asked by linsey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Run, and don't look back.
2006-07-04 08:13:16 · answer #1 · answered by nemraC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why in the world would you still be in the same house with him anyway you said you went to your parents. If he cheated on you once, he'll do it again and all you will be to him is a babysitter and a place for him to go when he has nothing better. You are better than that. Tell him to move on and you move on too. Find someone that wants to be with you, you deserve to be happy, don't let this jerk run your life. take care of you and your kids first. he is responsible for the other children not you. And why does he want ou to watch his kids, so he can go out a fool around some more. Get wise
2006-07-04 08:15:14 · answer #2 · answered by funnyface53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has had 2 kids since you've been together and neither are your, but he expects you to watch them? Whatever! Some women are capable of doing that, but I don't think I would be. But then again, I would have booted him to the curb when I found out he was cheating.
You need to decide what you want to do here. Either forgive him and move back home. Or Divorce him. You could still forgive him, but he has totally broken your trust and it would take a LONG time, if ever, for him to regain it.
He has a lot of nerve asking you to watch his mistresses child. Wow.
2006-07-11 01:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by PATTY H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How nieve can you be? The guy is honestly a pig and can't have just one woman. There is absolutley NO WAY this man loves you. How could you forgive someone that did that to you? He WILL do it again, mark my words. Forget about him and his children and take your child to your parents house and stay there. It might be difficult to do this, but just know you love this man more than he loves you. Sucks doesn't it? It stinks not to get the same love and respect that you are always giving. You are obviously a good hearted person, you take care of his children and you want to forgive him. But he has broken the vows you made to each other and he has disrespected you. Please leave him, I promise you will be better off without him.
2006-07-04 08:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to think about if you love this person. You can forgive somone, but will you forget? Plus, he's had a kid with someone else. I would recommend taking some time for yourself, and I mean about 6 months or more. See how you feel, if you are fine without him, then it's time to keep on moving and find someone new, or just enjoy your freedom and your child.
2006-07-04 08:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by Remington B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you stay with that loser anyways? !st off i would of left that so called man when i found out that he cheated on me.So therefore i would not watch his baby he had with someone else. God he is a real loser!You don't need to go back to him.What in the hell do you have to go back to anyway? A so called husband that not only cheats on you but also has a baby with someone else. Girl they are a lot of good men out here that won't do you that way.You need to drop that loser and find a real man.
2006-07-04 08:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that was a hard blow to u. If do forgive him u must accept those kids. I know he got them outside ur marriage but its not the kids fault he is stupid. Ur children deserve the right to know his/ her siblings. If u just can't forgive and get past things then move on with ur life. I'm not saying be a fool and take care of his kids while he do what he do, but at least give ur child a chance to know them.
2006-07-04 08:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by Just-curious28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No body can tell you whether or not you should go back to him. That is something only you can decide but can you ever really trust him again? And hell no you shouldn't have to take care of his kid from someone else. He is selfish and you are nothing more then a slave to him. I hope you make the right decision but only you can make it.
2006-07-04 08:29:46 · answer #8 · answered by Badboyattitude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would tell my husband (yours) that he screwed up and he needs to fix it. I would stay at my parents/friends any were without him until he figures out a way to fix the problems at hand if he wants me back. It is then up to you to decide if what he chooses to do to fix,(counselling, open communication, rebuilding trust and honesty etc) is good enough for you to accept and be able to live with him again and start over. If you choose to stay with him and start over you are also accepting the shared responsiblity of his other children. I personally feel that once a cheater always a cheater. You will have to do what is best for you and your kid. Good luck and make him make the first move at asking for forgiveness and for wanting to make it right again. Best wishes.
2006-07-04 08:19:53 · answer #9 · answered by Trina V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No; this guy should learn from his mistakes. You would be putting yourself through a lot more misery if you go back without first being able to rid yourself of this resentment. I did this once and the relationship didn't last. Try to live separately for a time. If he has changed you will see his true colors. If you have changed the way you feel about him you will find it hard to go back. It is hard to resume a relationship once you have lost respect for your partner.
2006-07-04 08:18:50 · answer #10 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no, why should you watch his ids make it a family situation if he not their then you should not be not unless the child's mother is dead or out ther on drugs on the street then you have a bigger heart and take care of the child cause neither one of the none who made the kids have any sense.
2006-07-04 08:15:55 · answer #11 · answered by michellegprix99@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋