My soon to be ex husband kept telling me there was nothing going on with his former lover. He kept reassuring me that it was over, that I am the one he really wants.That he didn't care for her. It seems by her response he was playing her for a fool as well. I could imagine all of the lies he was telling her about our marriage.
was i wrong to do this.? I only did it because i wanted to see if she would respond. She thanked me for the information & called herself a sucker. Would you consider taking this man back?
2006-07-04 08:07:06 · 39 answers · asked by mari 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you were right to send the emails. Fight fire with fire.. What he did was dishonest, what you did, may have saved another woman the hurt he has put you through. Sounds like she was unaware that your marriage was still in existence..
If I was you, I would NOT be with him, but this is something that you need to consider and make a decision for yourself on. No one can tell you how to feel and live your life, but your heart and mind can. You sound like a very intelligent woman who knows what she deserves.
Good luck!
2006-07-04 08:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT take that loser back. He has NO respect for women and seems to think that they are dumb and won't catch on to what is actually going on. Do you really want that in your life again? I sure wouldn't!
I wish I could of had the e-mails to all the women my ex husband was with (I knew one of them since I was 9 years old). Then when he sent me something, I would send it to her so she could see how much of a loser he was.
You deserve better than what he gives to you, which he gives you nothing but lies, deceit, and disrespect. Drop the loser. You will, in time, find someone else that will treat you with the love, kindness, and respect that you deserve.
2006-07-04 08:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce was gave to Gods people for a hard heart.We can divorce for several reasons,and husbands/wives cheating would be one of the reasons.It's all up to you,whats in your heart? Do you forgive him?Can you trust him again?Start over,start everything over even the courtship if that's what you want to try.If he's sincere and wants forgiveness,then what does the Bible say about forgiveness.Our Father in heaven will forgive us if we forgive others.I know some of the things people endure they endure out of hope that God will intervene,and some people wait until its to late.Get Godly counselor,and search the Scriptures.
2006-07-18 15:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great call on the e-mails. The former lover also needed to know about the games. Glad it worked out. Do not take him back.
2006-07-16 13:12:02 · answer #4 · answered by JAMES11A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the same time as ever she sounds like it. perhaps you'll continually be a secret as a results of the indisputable fact that makes it seem grimy and that is what she needs. perhaps her husband heavily isn't an ex and also you'll continually be contained in the closet. no one is obligated to bare some thing, until eventually it really is risky ingredient to the country.
2016-11-05 21:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same spot you are in it was with my son father and he kept telling me nothing was going on, So I found a note to him from her and then I went to her house and we had a long talk, Come to find out he never told her about me or that he had a child, But when he found out I went to her house let me tell you I had mine and my son stuff packed and when he came in he was like where are you going please don't leave me, It will never happen again. I told him your right it won't happen again but it has been happening the 7 years we were together and I said I'm done and we left.
2006-07-18 06:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe you did a very smart thing. And no, do not take him back. Don't let him play you for a fool again. Your better than that. Think of yourself for a change. You will find someone who will not treat you like trash. You don't need someone like that in your life.
2006-07-04 08:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by Barb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope i definitely wouldn't take him back. He's not ready to be in a relationship and frankly you've wasted enough time on this loser. Move on, do your own thing! Stop worrying about if you should take him back or not. You should be worried about more important things like what dress to wear on your NEW DATE with someone else.
2006-07-14 04:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by Sxyblkdiva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Way!! Dont take him back because he will only do this again!
I like the idea of sending her the emails! LOL that was funny. Actually sounds like something I would do! You should ask her to hang out sometime,,that would probably p*ss him off:D
2006-07-17 17:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO!!!!! If he did it onec he'll do it again and agin and again it was cool of you not to snap on the other woman i know alot of girls that try to fight the other women when thy really should be betting the hell out of the man they were in the relationship with you were a woman about yours now stick to your guns and move on to bigger and better things
2006-07-04 08:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by devoe442004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋