Ive been in this relationship for over three years, we're both in our early twenties.I really love him, but over the years we've always fought when he started saying that he missed being "free", and that he would like to be with other girls, i'm not what he wants and that he's wasting his youth with me, that he doesn't do many things cause he knows i'll get mad at him...(these things consist of him blowing me off and going off to parties or whatever where he doesn't want to take me 'cause his girl friends are gonna be there), and when he won't hang out with me and my family because he doesn't feel comfortable, but then he would say that he really likes to be with me and that he knows it'll be hard to find someone like me. But then, as we are breaking up cause of all this, he says that the problem is that he can't trust me, that i'm a liar and that he wanted to believe that i loved him. He thinks i was faking. But i swear i'm not! Is he making excuses to get away or could it be true?
2006-07-04 07:57:21 · 19 answers · asked by jade 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would say definitely get rid of this guy. If he is truly playing games like that just to see if he can trust you, then he is not worth it...and if he just really does want to be with other people, then he is not worth it either. Move on and find someone who is worth your time!
2006-07-04 08:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is confused. It sounds like he doesn't want to be in the relationship due to the commitment. If he doesn't want to hang out with you because he is loosing his youth that just means he doesn't want to be tied down yet. Some guys and even girls go through this. Depending on how old you both were when you started dating, he may feel like he never had a chance to be a young man.
2006-07-04 15:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, somewhat of a bad boy, i think.
Does he value your sense of Trust and your sense of People and does he respect this always? Let's hope so.
Remember, bad boys can only play one hat in life when life requires that we all be able to play many hats at any given time.
Bad boys are selfish too. They don't respect your family or anything about you, because they only want one thing from you and we all know what that is.
I know you love him, but is he a true love though? Do you have open communication whereby there is a trust? Do you have a "Meeting of minds" which means you feel great with him and there is always a feeling of warmth too with this?
2006-07-04 15:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's making excuses.
But why should that matter?He's going out without you to go see other girls.Why the hell would you want to be with someone that treats you like that?3 yrs is along time to some people and they don't want to throw all that time away,but in your case you'd be better off without him.By staying with him your telling him it's ok to treat you this way.His behavior is totally unacceptable!Don't waste anymore of your time/life on this loser,go find yourself a real man.
2006-07-04 15:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by tiger_lover_1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In don't see any reason in what you've written that you should stay with this guy. You say you love him but exactly what do you love about him? Love involves the fulfilling of some of your needs by someone else--so what needs of yours is he fulfilling, unless it's a need to suffer, to be made to feel bad, to be called names and not be trusted? If you listen to your heart, you will know what you need to do.
2006-07-04 15:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by besoseda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's face it---you've been a doormat for this "waste of sperm!" Furthermore, you've let him do it. Why would you want to be involved with someone who treats you like this?
He's been cheating on you, but like some men have a tendency to do, he's accusing you of lying to him.
Look at your posting again---he's already told you what he wants----learn from the experience, let the guy go and be "free.". You can do MUCH better!
2006-07-04 15:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by wvmamaquack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl set him free! if he's got to make up excuses about your relationship then he is not ready to be in one.
when a guy says: he misses his freedom then that is a sure tell-tell sign of what he really wants, go on and you'll find someone else, someone worthy of you.
2006-07-04 15:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go. dont waste your youth on someone thats wasting your time. I know thats hard to take , but take it from someone who is 42.. I wasted those years too, 10 of them on exactly the wrong person. You can't get back lost time.
2006-07-04 16:00:02 · answer #8 · answered by peewee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing first he is cheating on you ,when eva a man ? you ,blames you ,fights w/you about stuiped things he is the one doing those things and is just setting you up .so he does"nt feel guilty or better yet get caught .think about the last time he broke up w/ u was it after you had sex and then became upset so he can do what ever he wanted with out anyone to ? him . {do you get it ?}
2006-07-04 15:11:03 · answer #9 · answered by jeandiorio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go honey...he sounds like a confused little boy, & while he's being indecisive he's messing you around & it isnt fair. Notice how he's placing all the blame for the faliure of your relationship on you? He's making excuses so he doesn't look like the idiot he is =]
2006-07-04 15:03:29 · answer #10 · answered by Brandi H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋