2006-07-04 07:34:28 · 15 answers · asked by lewishope@btinternet.com 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course you can. It will take some time and I know it's not easy. When I was 18, I married a man I thought loved me, but after he tried to drown me, threw me down a flight of stairs, threw hot soup in my face, and put me in the hospital 3 times I knew that he didn't love me at all and I was stupid to believe he would change. I didn't think I could ever find someone to really love me and care for me, but I did. It took me 3 years of NOT looking to find the right one. He takes care of me and when we argue, I don't end up in the hospital. Please don't settle because you are afraid to be alone. You deserve to be loved and cared for. You don't deserve the bruises; Mental, physical or emotional.
2006-07-04 07:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by Karma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a very abusive relationship from the time Iwas twenty one to twenty seven. He stalked me for two years after I left and it was a horrific stalking with no help from the police at all.
Let me tell you, life and love do exist for us! If you convince yourself that you are not a victim but a survivor, life will turn around or you. While you are dealing with what has happened in the past, work on becoming the best that you can be. Read self help books, go to support groups, volunteer to help others. Heal your heart............then when you feel comfortable and secure begin going out with male friends that you feel comfortable and safe with. Just friends. Eventually, you will begin trusting again.........and you will live happily ever after.
Don't let the past spoil the future for you. Some man will come along and you will love him so much more because you realize what a bad relationship was...............and how blessed you are to be in a good one.
2006-07-04 19:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never too late to start over again, everyone has the chance for a fresh new start in a relationship. It will be very difficult to get over your past relationship, but like the new song by All American Rejects "Move Along" goes are you going to keep it strong move along.
2006-07-04 14:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I started my life over at the age of 56, was married for 34 1/2 years, found out my husband had molested 5 of ny nieces, 1 of his own, had affair with 1 girl for 13 years, I left the next day. he is now with his girlfriend, and I hope he beats the crap out of her like he did me, all the time..Yes you can start over & I hope & pray that you will find someone wonderful like I did. Life is now beautiful.
2006-07-04 14:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by beautie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can. You have experience now that will keep you from falling into bad relationships. Keep busy and the right person will find you. Love is better the second time around. Sorry about that bit of triteness.
2006-07-04 15:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can start again. It may take some time to work through your problems from the last relationship, but you can do it. Get through your problems then go for it. It may be hard to trust men agai at first but I'm sure you can get through it.
2006-07-04 14:38:25 · answer #6 · answered by mandi88_bailey05_ray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can!! You always can!! You might consider counseling to help you gain back your confidence and self esteem. It's there inside you... you can find it! You deserve love and understanding and you deserve a better life! Hold your head up!! You CAN do it!!
2006-07-04 14:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. You learned alot of things and can recognize the signs of abuse. Now you know you don't have to put up with anything you don't want to put up with, are in charge of your life and can make it into something really beautiful.
2006-07-04 14:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
38 is way young... you have alot of life a head of you.
There is someone out there who will treat you right.
I wish you the best!
2006-07-04 14:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can, but if you need counseling, get it. Do not take this bad relationship to your next one. Good luck.
2006-07-04 14:38:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋