i am still not going in for legal procedure just for the kids because i feel that i would be hurting the kids who have done no wrong and should not suffer because of their parents misunderstanding. i do know i am wasting life draging this issue but i want my kids to be happy. Am i wrong
2006-07-04 07:25:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dont drag on this issue. sit with her and talk it out. if she wants a seperate house then give her one. what are you scared of? your parents can visit you anytime.also seperate house will be great for the kids. dont end a marriage. you are doing a great thing.start building a new house, start building a new life.
2006-07-04 07:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by atahsina 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly let me tell you Iam not a doctor..or a therapist of some sort....so this is just friendly advice which you can choose to take or reject....
You are worried about not going for a legal procedure as it might hurt your kids.....but what you must remember that is you are not happy it shows....and trust me your kids most probably already know.
To keep your children truly happy you must follow your heart and do what is right ...not wait ....ruin your life and your children's .
Yes your children have done no wrong...and yes they will be hurt by a legal procedure but if you are unhappy you wont be able to take care of them the way they deserve to be taken care of.....
In order to spread happiness...one must be happy themselves.
2006-07-04 14:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by PRINT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sage, are your children truely happy the way you and your wife is living now? Can you honestly say they are okay with the same old disagreements between you two? Children will accept anything as long as both parents are happy so don't by dragging this out your making the children happy because your only trying to control something to keep her life in limbo.
2006-07-04 14:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look u need to really think about ur happiness as well. Sometimes we think we are doing what's best for our children to find out we are hurting them. Children can tell when ur not happy and that makes them unhappy. If ur going through in ur marriage u can't give ur kids all they need being unhappy. I know from experience what it can do to children. Please think about happiness for urself and the children will be happy to see u happy. It may be hard at first but it will get better.
2006-07-04 15:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by Just-curious28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself too, Is this what I want my kids to think is the way to live life? Just because your not wanting to hurt your kids is no reason to live an unhappy life. You may not be giving your kids the benefit of understanding your situation.
2006-07-04 14:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by Home Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are miserable, your KIDS won't be happy. Divorce is often not a BAD thing for children. ENsure them that they have done nothing wrong... but living in a dysfunctional home can be MUCH more damaging to children than sharing time with both parents, who are then much happier apart. Please consider this.
2006-07-04 14:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents waited out as long as they could hoping it would make it better for me and my siblings... however looking back on it now all I can remember about my childhood is a lot of tension and long conversations that never went anywhere children have a strong sences what your doing could hurt them more
2006-07-04 14:46:03 · answer #7 · answered by hezzy_9805 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are wrong. You're kids can't be happy, if you are not happy. They are smarter than you think. Do what you have to do. Don't stay just for the kids, they will adjust.
2006-07-04 14:41:12 · answer #8 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u r not wrong, as long as what u r doing is making the kids happy
,,,, thats part of being parents u have to put the little one happiness b4 ur own,, so try n c,,,, if they want what u want the okie dokie
2006-07-04 14:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by turbolover89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not wrong for wanting your kids to be happy
2006-07-04 15:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋