Dad had neglested my sister to the point she refuses to go back.
My brother and I have continued visits as order but not cause we always want to. He isn't a very good parent.
My dad subpeonaed me, my brother & my boyfreind to go to court to testify regarding my mom not forcing my sister to go to visits.
Both my mom and dad know my boyfreind- my mom took him to his dentist appt. cause he didn't have a ride.
Why is my dad having him testify on his behalf?
2006-07-04 07:13:55 · 9 answers · asked by davalyn88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are older than 14, you should be able to tell the court the issue and they will listen to you. It sounds as if you are the oldest child, which is the position that I'm in. We are all adults now, but we are still being put in the middle of the divorce by mom .. my dad would never put us in the middle like that.
At any rate, your dad is assuming that you will testify that he is a good father and that your mom isn't forcing your sister to go. I'm a firm believer that if a child doesn't think she has a good parent, she REALLY doesn't have a good parent. The courts will see this and may very well amend the visitation agreement.
All you need to do is tell the court the truth: Your sister is neglected and doesn't want to go there, and the only reason that you do is because you HAVE to. If that is the truth it's all you need to say. Let the courts handle it from there.
Good luck to you. I'm sorry to have to be in this position.
2006-07-04 07:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by Aussie Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad can't have anyone testify on his behalf unless that person wants to. He can have them testify, but that person can turn around and do the opposite of what you Dad intends. tell the truth about why your sister doesn't go to visitation. Your mom needs to go to the dept of human services and explain the situation with your sister. You don't say how old she is, or what she does to refuse, if she gets physical or not. She can always go and not say a word to him. Maybe then he would back off
2006-07-04 07:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by funnyface53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Putting you all through this is not a very nice thing, but...no parent needs to put their kids against the other parent. No good at all!!! They, if not your mom but your dad from what you said is actually trying to put you against your mom. If you have to, go to court, tell the truth. Let your boyfriend do it also, he's been around and knows what's going on. Do what's right, only the truth. You're not going to be your Mom's or your Dad's favorite person right now, because each of them wants to have you on their side. I know it's a situation, but hopefully it's a lesson you would learn from. Speak the truth, take no sides, they are your parents, they'll never hate you!!
2006-07-04 07:23:35 · answer #3 · answered by island1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your dad misses you all alot and thinks that because your boyfriend is out of the family he will be un-biased and would want to try and please your dad by testifying for him. You should have a word with your dad and your sister and see if you can come to an agreement. Your boyfriend shouldn't be dragged into this and your dad knows that but is being unfair and obviously not thinking about how he's making you feel. Just talk to your dad and sister and see if you can convince your sister to pay him a visit with you so you can all sort this out. If it gets too bad though you should allow it to go to court but make sure your boyfriend isn't involved.
2006-07-04 07:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by PinkBunny<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is hard if you sister doesn't want to go. How old is she. Some states the judge will listen to the child. This happened to me and I faced contempt of court 41 counts, jail time and a 41,000$ fine, as it is mandatory in California. I had to hire a criminal attorney to help me. We beat it on a technicality thank god. Well known baseball player, Steve Garvey actually had his wife put in jail when her teen age daughter refused to go on visits with him. Your dad sounds like a dirty player and I wouldn't want to go with him. He risks you and your brother refusing to visit. Plead to the judge that he is not a good parent Protect your mother the best you can. Your dads lawyer will try to put words in your mouth. Don't let him. Stand by your mom she must be really upset. Good luck honey and let me know how it works out.
2006-07-04 07:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by onedot.darling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your b/f is a pawn, being played by both parents. what your dad thinks he can gain from having your b/f there only he knows. I think pops is gonna lose, if your sister doesn't want to visit, the judge will not force her to, now if she wanted to and mom wouldn't let her, that's a different matter, most states forbid the child deciding whether they want to go or not, there could be coercion on the custodial parents part, but the judge will more than likely let her stay home if she wants.
2006-07-04 07:21:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he thinks you will support him - it is your responsiblity to go to court and tell the truth - if he is not a good dad and if he hurt you you need to tell the court!!
2006-07-04 07:16:32 · answer #7 · answered by Shopaholic Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe to get you to side with him as well. By acting like he accepts your boyfriend? He's playing you...
2006-07-04 07:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by monkeysgirl04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sry cant help u. im havin dad problems on my own
2006-07-04 07:15:41 · answer #9 · answered by kaniapia123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋