i have been seperated for past 3yrs for no fault of mine i tried all the possible ways to get her back but she just sticks to one that is buy me a seperate house , i live in a joint family and are very social. i have assured her of a new house asp once iam financially fit she dosent want it close to my house where i can build one .even she wont allow me to see the kids too . i am honest and true to date . i just vent out my feeling on the net otherwise nothing in real. i am faithful to my wife .can you just tell me as to what i should do. my appoligise to all if my questions if i have hurt or was indecent.
2006-07-04 06:59:45 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am so sorry to have to be the first to tell you that this woman is not into you at all. She is just manipulating your good heart and loving spirit so that she can have her cake and eat it too. You do NOT owe her a house - especially since she doesn't seem to want to share any part of her life with you.
It is comendable on your part that you have been faithful and loyal. However, your wife is treating you like a faithful dog - only worse - she might as well be beating your spirit down with a stick. Your loyalty is getting you nothing but pain and will be a source of misery to you until you choose a different path.
I'm not a marriage counselor - it sounds like you really need one. And you should go alone and also with your wife. If you really think that you can work things out, that's great. But DON'T let her manipulate you into giving her everything she wants without reciprocating and giving you everything that you want.
To be honest, it sounds like she is going to drain you completely dry, suck the life out of you and then leave you to rot. It's your life, your choice and your future. But think about yourself first - she sure is.
Good luck.
2006-07-04 07:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by The Lizard Queen 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Honey, she is SO taking advantage of you. You must love her a great deal to put up with this for 3 yrs. But there comes a time when you must accept the fact that things are over. If you haven't been able to get things straightened out in 3 years it's not likely you ever will. But that choice is yours. If you want to keep trying and putting your own life on hold, then that's your choice. But if I were you I'd be seeking legal counsel. You have a right to see your own children. Good luck
2006-07-04 14:18:19 · answer #2 · answered by sparkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i lived in a joint family for 8 years. it is really difficult but you also have fascillities. if she has made up her mind then buy a seperate house far away from your family.do whatever it takes to maintain this marriage. believe me, once she starts her own family, she will start loving your family more. it will be good for the kids too. the pressure of maintaining a family is hard. she will understand that when she starts her own faily. then she will calm down. dont do anything drastic. give her a second chance.
2006-07-04 14:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sage what is a joint family? Does that mean you live with other family members? If so she probably doesn't want to live her married life that way or so close to them. Believe me I would never live with family because no home is big enough. Other then showing her how much you love her that is all you can do.
2006-07-04 14:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋