Why is the divorce rate so high? My parents were married 60 years.?

Question

Could it be because marriage is no longer sacred. Promiscuity is the bahavior of the day. Men and women don't respect the vows they made?
I have been cheated on 2 times. The first husband did it while I was pregnant and the second husband was screwing his 1st wife. I can't accept that behavior. I divorced them and each one didn't expect me to go through with it. I just cannot be with someone after they have bedded down with another while married. It literally makes me physically sick.
Hey, I am not "frigid", I am a great roll in the hay. I work hard, I am employed and make more than a lot of women.
Whats the deal?

Answer 1

If you actually look at statistics, the divorce rate has decreased. I think it said 37%. But, you have to look at the differences of times. When your parents got married, a woman's place was in the house. No higher education was pushed for women, no jobs. Just kids and waiting on your husband's every beckon call. Nowadays, both parties need to work to make ends meet. Women are now expected to go to college. Women are just a lot more independent than it used to be. We now know that we don't NEED a man. We are able to provide for ourselves and our families. Men need to feel like we are dependent on them, and when they don't feel it, if they are assholes, then they will stray! This is all about the men's insecurities, not us females!

Answer 2

I have been married twice. The first husband I was married to for 23 years. We had 2 children. He passed away from Lung Cancer in 2002. We were happy for 21 of those years, I think the disease changes a person. I made sure he had the best doctors and care he could have. I did the best I could to make him comfortable.
I got married again in 2004, to a wonderful man i met on American Singles. We have alot of fun together This marriage will last a long time too, because we have respect and love for each other. I think that's what it takes to make a marriage last for a long time.
I have noticed that if something goes wrong people just give up and get a divorce. They don't try any more to make it last.

Answer 3

Unfortunately, we live in an age when most people are very self-centered. Especially here in the U.S. where everything thrown at us by the media tells us to put yourself 1st. We're extremely spoiled. We don't know the meaning of true love, which is not just a feeling, but a commitment to another person, for better or Worse. True love is about sacrifice & a decision to stay with a person through thick & thin. There might be times you don't "like" a person, but you decide you will "love" them anyway. (By the way, it was ok to divorce your husbands- adultery is the only reason for divorce that the Bible says is ok). I had the same thing happen to me, but thankfully, after Years of prayer & separations, God saved our marriage.

Answer 4

I think there are different reasons but one of the biggest is people do not take enough time and thought about not only getting married but also about the person they are about to marry. I think people should know someone really well for a minimum of 2 years before they even consider the possibility of getting married. I also think in the world we live in today, people ought to wait until they are at least 30 years old before they tie the knot. That way they have time to complete their education, secure a job and their financial independence as well as have time to just have fun prior to all the stress of marriage and family.

Answer 5

People just don't care anymore about morals. They will compromise them for almost anything in today's world. Give them a chance when they feel they are not hurting someone and they will take although in the back of their mind they do know it is hurting the other person, but for that moment they don't care. Women will go to bed with a married faster than a single one now days and don't understand it because if we stuck together on this then married men couldn't cheat with them. In my walk of life I've seen more women then men who is willing to cheat and not thing anything about it because they think they can justify it by saying he was this way or what have you. No excuses should be good enough for cheating or lying. I am a woman but I blame both parties when this happens but for goodness sake women why can't we stick together and leave them along??

Answer 6

Today's people has much less ethics, want very quick result (instant generation), does not respect others, greedy and materialistic, etc.
Yes, I agree with you. I think I am pretty old fashion compare to the generation of today. So, these are the formulas that give birth to divorce and cheating society.

Answer 7

In the past 20, 30 40 yrs ago women where afraid to leave bad marriages, they were brain washed to stay with their husbands, they had no means to support themselves and their children so they stayed. My parents have been married for over 40 yrs, my mom would never leave because she felt she couldn't take care of her self and her kids, he treated her like a slave, still does. He always held her back from anything she wanted to do.

Answer 8

Just keep holding your head high. It seems your a great catch and these so called losers that did that to you must have had their pride hurt. You didn't depend on them,And that is what most men want.Keep doing What you are and the right man will come to you.

Answer 9

It's because sex isn't sacred before marriage. Why should it be sacred after the marriage? Make them wait for the wedding night. Seriously!

Answer 10

well think abt it ,everyone is hurrying to marry nowadays , why? bcoz they think that theyr relationship will be the same in next 10 years ..well i must tell u that people change in time so tha`s why the divorce is rating so high coz most of people don`t think at future ..so the divorce is the only solution