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I am at a loss! I totally don't know what to do! My DH and I have been TTC # 2 for about 8 months now. I thought I was pregnant this time but found out last night that I am not. Our son was not planned at all and now that we are planning we can't do it. I was on the pill with my son, Zachary. I went on vacation and forgot my pills and was only off of them for 3 weeks when I found out I was pregnant. I have now been off the pills since November and we are having so much trouble. My cycles are so irregular without being on the pill. I have been getting my period's about every other month since November, But it has been so long this time I truly thought I was pregnant. My last period was April 21st. I was having some bad cramping last night and thought that if I was pregnant something was wrong, so I went to the ER and they did a blood test and it was negative. I was heartbroken, still am. With our son the home pregnancy test did not show positive until I was about three months pregnant. The doctor's did a blood test because I was late and the test all came back positive, and that is how I found out with Zachary. So needless to say I have been doing test after test and just thinking that they were negative because of what happened last time. The doctor told me last time that the reason the home test were negative was I could of had a cyst that was blocking the HCG hormone from getting into my urine. I don't know what else to do. We cant afford to go for fertility testing and medications. It was so easy the first time. I have tried everything I can think of from temperature charting to fertility websites to standing on my head after we have sex, nothing works. I am now afraid that something happened during my C-section with Zachary. Is that possible? I have even thought about going back on the pills for a month to regulate me and then trying. Do you think that would work? At this time that is my last hope. Any advice anyone could give would be helpful, Thank you.

Tabitha

Answer 1

I would definitely *not* suggest you go back on the Pill. First of all, it does *not* regulate your cycle; it eliminates it. When you go off it, it can take up to a year to get back to normal again.

Right now, I would suggest you read _Taking Charge of Your Fertility_ by Toni Weschler. You said you were charting, but you didn't say if you are ovulating. If you're not ovulating, then you obviously can't get pregnant. But you may be ovulating too close to your next period to conceive (this is really common after being on the Pill). If ovulation is less than 10 days before the first day of your next period, then you have a short luteal phase. You won't get pregnant until that is fixed. Again, wait a little longer, and it will probably be okay.

Are you *only* charting temperature? Or are you also charting cervical fluid? Charting your temperature *won't* help you get pregnant because by the time you know you have already ovulated, it's *too late* to get pregnant that cycle.

Don't bother with online ovulation calendars. They only give *averages*, and can make it *harder* to get pregnant. (Think of it this way--if you assume that every woman is 5'4" tall because that's average, you'll usually be *wrong*!) Ovulation predictor kids aren't much better, although they sometimes help. You need to see what is happening in your body.

Please read the book; it is the best thing you can do to help.

Answer 2

Going back on the pill will not fix anything, after you quit the pills your body goes right back to what it was without the pill, so the pill will not regulate anything. It sounds like you are not ovulating, with long cycles and missed periods means that you are probably not ovulating, there are lots of reasons for that so doing the fertility tests is what would help you determine what is wrong with you. Number one, do not stress out, you already have a baby, leave your worries for the ones trying to concieve for the firs time and they can't! If you already concieved a baby I am sure there is nothing wrong with you, but like I said, there are a lot of things that will keep your from ovulating. You might want to try this for a month or two, get the Fertile Focus Ovulation Predictor test, it is a saliva test that lets you know when you are ovulating, then when you have sex, use the Pre-seed lubricant, this lubricant does not kill sperm, saliva and all other lubricants they sell kill sperm pre-seed helps it swim faster and live longer, then after sex, put your legs up for about 20 minutes, do not stand on your head, because too much inclination will not be successfull, you want to just elevate your hips a little bit and keep your legs up. Ask your husband to ejaculate as deep as possible so you do not loose any sperm when he comes out, have sex every other day, it takes about 30 hours for the sperm to reach a good count and to be mature enough for it to be able to fertilize an egg. If this does not help in about 3 months, you will just have to sacrifice something to be able to afford your fertility tests. Good luck!

Answer 3

Babies always seem to come when you least expect it. Sounds like your worrying alot. Relax I just read something the other day that you will not ovulate when your stressed like the body just knows now is not the time to get pregnant and will wait to release an egg. So that could be what is happening. I know it's hard but you just have to go at it with a non-chalent attitude. It will happen when the time is right.

I use this website to track my periods and we are DONE TTC (two boys and hubby had a vascetomy) so I don't use b/c anymore. I know there is a section to the website that helps track ovulation hopefully it will help you. But most importantly RELAX it willl happen when the time is right I promise!!!

Answer 4

Although i was never on any birth control I'm in the same boat..my husand and I are trying for our second child(we have a daughter that is 16mths) we concieved our daughter within 4 months and this month i REALLY thought that I was pregnant but early this morning i found out that I wasnt and I am VERY upset....I was told that Fertilaid worked well so i'm going to try it this month and see what happens although it saysthat it could take 3 months or more to get regulated into your system...also i've heard that the Clearblue Easy Fertility Monitor worked well but its pretty expensive($199 plus test strips) but ebay has them for cheeper.. if you need to talk or anything feel free to e-mail me [e-mail]

Answer 5

Wow, that's quite a long question.

Your doctor is really the only one that can help you with this. If you have irregular periods, then you may not be ovulating. There are medicines that can help you with this...just the cost of a prescription (which hopefully you can afford if you are financially ready for another baby). Really, see your doctor so you won't be so stressed every month (stress can also be a factor for infertility).

Best wishes to you.

Answer 6

try not to stress out about it. Stress with cause you to not conceive as fast. A little trick someone told me when I was trying to get pregnant with my first one(which we tried for 6 months) after intercourse lean over the side of the bed with your head on the ground and your feet in the air. Award position I know and your husband might have to help you on this or just leave your legs on the bed. Try this a couple of times. It worked for me and I also gave this advise to my sister and my friend and they both conceived on the first try.

Good luck with everything.

Answer 7

I know exactly how you feel been trying for #2 for a year and a half. I also have very irregular periods.It is so hard not to worry and think about it, especially when u want it so bad. Good luck to you, hope it happens soon!!

Answer 8

3 years, no bc, no baby. I wouldn't worry about 8 months.

Answer 9

first off relax.....most people get preg when they least expect it . if your under stress your body will pass on the opertunity to concieve due to the harm it could cause a fetus.

Answer 10

little less details please. I'll read it if its shorter just the point.