I babysit at a daycare for a 9 month y hours a day. He will not be with anyone except me. Even with his mom he cries! He thinks that I am his mom! I am constantly there, picking him up, and do everything with him. I don't want to feel so responcible with this child. He won't let him put him down! Help! How can I get hime to stop thinking that I am his mom? I am 14.
2006-07-04 06:36:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
The baby doesn't think you're his mother; he thinks you're the person who cares for him, at least during the day. A baby *needs* one person who he can relate to and love; from there, he learns to love others. You may be that person to him. But since you don't see how he interracts with his mother at home, you don't know that he cries all the time he is with her.
Don't take on more responsibility than you are ready for, but *don't* try to teach him that you're not his mother, either. If that's what is going on now, he will learn as he grows, but right now, he's gotten attached to you and needs you, too.
2006-07-04 09:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 02:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it s a matter of this child thinking you are his Mom but since you accomodate his every wish for as you say you are constantly there and he has found out by crying hat you'll continue he is manipulating you-which isn't a bad thing but normal for a child to do to get his or her way. It's ok to pay attention to him and fo things with him but when you want to put him down -say you will and don't pich him back up occupy yourself or interact with the other children. Since he's been allowed to get his way by crying he more than likely will and ok to let him if he doesn't stop after approx 10 min.have another caretaker go and comfort him but you be occupied and not observing him or in another room. The little fella actually is smart to have caught on as what works to get attention and mainly from you-obviously he likes you which should make you feel good but don't feel responsible for you are not his mother and you feeling this way more than likely always causes you to pick him up when he cries and so on. Since he is at the daycare for approx 8hrs its not unnatural for him to form attachments to the people here-just be firm and leave him to someone elses care when you need to do other things or when his mother comes to pick him up start having another caretaker get him ready for making him dependent on you is actually not good for he needs to learn his neds can be met by others and not just you.
Being firm and teahing him to be independent rom you does not mean he'll think you don't care etc for you can still do things with him throughout the day but don't be the only one. Discuss this with your supervisor and may be able to draw up a schedule for various people to share in taking care of him throughout the day. Good Luck
2006-07-04 06:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you provide most of the care then this is totally natural, or he just likes you. It could be something as simple as the way you hold him or how you smell...it's something w/you that calms him. Don't worry It is a faze the baby will grow out of and probably the real mother appreciates the help I know I would. I don't think he thinks your the mommy but he does think your the one he likes to be around. Kind of a compliment enjoy it while this faze lasts!!
2006-07-04 06:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by MaryJaneD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby doesn't think you are his mom. He just has come to know that if he cries you will pick him up and stuff. You have to learn to distance yourself from the baby when he cries, or let someone else take care of him.
2006-07-04 06:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by ashez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He DOES NOT think you're his mother.....
He's playing you!
He only wants you because you pick him up all the time and do everything with him.
You're spoiling him.
You need to stop picking him up all the time.
When he does cry...
unfortunately you're gonna have to let him.
He needs to know you're not the only one there.
Allow one of the other sitters to care for him.
Do not ignore or neglect him. Just don't cater to him.
2006-07-04 07:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you have a problem, you have to stop spending so much time with the child and let his parents do that. Let them know what the problem is and tell them that their child is depending more on you than them.
2006-07-04 06:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give that one child ALL of your attention. Give them all teh same amount of time. That should help this one particular child from thinking of you as a mother figure.
2006-07-04 06:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by RikChick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not think you are his mom, he just likes you a lot. Stop catering to him, he will get over it. Let another worker care for him.
2006-07-04 06:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pay attention to him anymore if it is bothering you so much
2006-07-04 07:13:44 · answer #10 · answered by justin bieber <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋