i am a single dad and my daughter is turning 10 what is the best way for me to give her the big talk?

Question

when i say big talk i mean on her first period and girl things like getting her her first bra would it be best for me to get a woman for this?

Answer 1

Getting an aunt or an older cousin would best. It would be way to awkward for her if you talked to her about it. Unless you did it soon, before she gets to embarassed. And ten is a little too early. Most schools where I live do a class in the fifth grade. That will cover her period and her first bra. Which leaves sex, which they don't teach. Get an aunt to do that, that'll be much better than talking to her yourself.

Answer 2

I am not really sure she needs the BIG talk at age 10. Sometimes parents give out too much info too soon. You should be able to gauge what she is ready for by listening to what she asks , says , etc. For example if something is said on a tv show you may ask "Do you know what they are talking about?" or just watch her response to see if she understands or if it went over her head and there is no reason to discuss it. I am all about being honest with kids and giving them all the info they need but like I said there is such a thing as too much info too soon in life. First decide how much she is ready to hear then worry about the right way to say it.

Answer 3

This is a tough one. You don't want to give too little or too much information. I'd emphasize that guys are not to be trusted. They'll say anything to get what they want from a girl. Also, whenever young guys get something, they'll talk about it, and spoil a girl's reputation. The main thing at this age is to establish completely open communication where no topic is off limits. Make it clear that 10 y.o. is too young for a relationship with a boy. Also, carefully monitor your daughter's friends. Watch out for friends that have little parental supervision. You need to be the parent- be in charge and set clear limits of behavior. Be firm, be loving, be supportive, and never raise your voice. Good luck!

Answer 4

No, don't get anyone else to do it. You are the one she loves and trusts. First, I would ask her if any of her friends have been talking about having a "period". She may know about this already. Ask her if she has any questions. Don't tell more than she needs to know. Be casual and look her in the eyes. Show her that this isn't embarrassing; be matter of fact and she will feel relaxed enough to ask you questions in the future. You sound like a caring father. Good luck to both of you. If she does have a close aunt or someone like that, perhaps you can tell that person about your talk and see if they want to follow up.

Answer 5

If you are talking about menstruation tell her that a woman body body is much different from a male boy and that when it happens it's okay. It is cleaning her insides out. If you are talking about the birds and the bees. Be very clear don't worry about saying the wrong thing. My father made it very clear and told me to not worry that anything I wanted to know just ask. We have the perfect relationship. I am now twenty three years old married with no children,and almost a college graduate in 8 months.

Answer 6

In school they learn about periods and sex (in older grades). As for bra's, find a relative thats a girl or a good adult friend of hers. If no one is available to do that, tell her to measure her rib cage and then her cup size. most girls always start with and A sized bra. You also could tell her that when she does start her period, she can tell you and you will buy her the products she needs. Good luck and dont get to worried over it. (she may look embarresed while your talking but its normall).

Answer 7

just be honest, dont sugarcoat it, kudos to you for telling her now instead of waiting till shes 13 and turns up pregnant. When you are done talking to her just ask her if she has any questions and answer those to the best of your ability as well. Just try to be relaxed, if you keep the lines of communication open now then she will be more likely to talk to you about this stuff when it starts being an issue for her.

Answer 8

I would be kind of embarrassed if my father were to talk to me about that even with his good intentions, so i suggest you ask a woman whom you think she admires most in the neighborhood to give her that talk. If you don't think that is the best solution, you should tell her yourself, but keep in mind that most girls no more about the talk that you think they do.

Answer 9

Be honest and frank. Be sure to discuss the emotional issues involved in sex as well as the mechanical ones. Make sure that you leave her with the idea that her body, sex and relationships are good things that are to be taken care of. Be available for questions but don't force anything.

Answer 10

i used an analogy with my girls.....puzzles. I spoke of how they are meant to fit together and that if you don't find just the right piece that the puzzle will never look or feel right. As far a her menses ask the school nurse to help you, most will be glad to explain to her and to tell you what to buy in order to be prepared.