she died of a heart attack. i'm separated from my husband. i feel so alone.
2006-07-04 06:05:15 · 8 answers · asked by Sam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am sorry for your loss.
There was something that was said at my stepfather's funeral that stuck with me. I was 13 at the time and he was very important to our family. He was killed by a drunk driver.
This man said that we are sad because this person was important to us. Because this person brought so much love and joy to our lives. Because this person was a friend and a teacher. It is natural to be sad because we feel the emptiness of this person's absence. But the important thing to recognize is how really lucky we were to have someone like that in our life. Someone so good that they are missed this way. It is because of all that we gained that we grieve for them.
For some reason, this helped me and changed the focus of my attention. I hope that it brings you the same ease.
I am sorry to hear you are separated from your husband. I do not know if that is good or bad. But, I find that helping others heals my own heart. If there is something that you have always felt like you needed to do - maybe you will find hope and strength by doing it now. That may help you gain a direction and a clarity with your life and with your relationship?
Good luck
2006-07-04 06:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by luxury6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should be beating yourself up about not getting over her death after only three months. It hasn't been long at all. I don't know what it's like to lose a parent, but my mom, who lost her mom at a very young age, once told me that you never totally get over the loss of a parent, but you do learn to deal with it and in time, your heart starts to heal.
I'm sure that being separated from your husband doesn't help matters. You probably feel like your whole world is falling down around you. Maybe you should consider getting counseling, or even going to a support group for people who have lost a loved one. Sometimes just talking can really help.
I wish you the best.
2006-07-04 06:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by Naples_6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The loss of your Mother is a devastating thing to have happen. I lost mine many years ago, and I will tell you, it takes a long time to be able to function afterwards. Allow yourself to grieve! If necessary, go somewhere alone, and scream to the top of your lungs, cry, and get it out. I had to myself,when my Mother died, only I did it in a truck while driving, which I would NOT recommend. My Mother died of a heart attack also, and I'll tell you, it shocks you! If you need a friend to talk to, e-maIL ME. I'll listen. You are NOT alone, unless you choose to be. Good Luck! It DOES get easier with time.
2006-07-04 06:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 06:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by tramble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man that's tough. I am sorry for your loss. The grieving process can take awhile. My advice is to seek God. He's always there for you. He is the comforter, and a friend that sticks closer than a brother. I lost my sister in 2002. We were always very close, she's just 2 years older than me and people always said we looked like twins. I love her very much. I hate the devil and his damn cancer! I know my sister is in a better place without suffering anymore. She has peace and joy, because she has Jesus as her personal savior. Find a good Word of Faith, Bible believing church, and seek God. Sadly, this life has many challenges, and I've found the only way to deal with them is with the Lord. If it weren't for him, I couldn't handle the stress either. I take comfort in the fact that this life is temporary, and we have a better one to come (for those that have accepted Jesus as their personal savor, not better at all for those that don't accept the savior and helper into their life). God is here for you and he loves you. People will let you down, and the enemy is real, doing all he can to take us out. Stand up to him, learn the truth, and live like never before! With God all things are possible, and life is great. Without him, it sucks, period!
2006-07-04 06:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by Matt B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear so sorry to hear that. You need to go through the greiving process and all the stages now that is normal for what you been through. don't rush anything and try and your friends for some comfort for all means talk with anyone don't have to be alone now.
2006-07-04 06:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U will never get over it girl,i know how you feel and im still dealing with after 3 years.just remember the good times and you will be okay
2006-07-04 06:10:34 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry honey....it'll be fine. just fine. just hang in there....
I cant say u'll get over your loss, but the least u can do is try to lead a normal happy life again...
and i bet your loving mother will be smiling over you from the silver skies of Heaven...
God bless her soul.
dont feel lonely....God made this world and filled it with all kinds of wonderful people to keep us from being lonely...think bout it. :)
2006-07-04 06:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋