im in australia and hes in morocco...(hes waiting for a visa).these fights r over the net and so stupid and i try to calm him but every second day he just leaves after saying the worst things and it hurts so bad...i miss him so much but now its all turning to hate...help
2006-07-04 05:51:52 · 35 answers · asked by dancinfaeries 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All you can do is pray, maybe he is not ready for the responsibility of been a father. Remember there is a difference between fathering a child and been the father of a child. I hope things will turn around for you and your husband.
2006-07-04 05:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by Irie 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
He is abusing you. This is his way of controlling and manipulating you. It is unlikely that the situation will get better when he is near, though then he will be close enough to actually hit you after the words don't have so much an effect anymore.
You both need counseling at the least.
I do not like the idea of divorce. I guess I'm old school, so perhaps my advice on this is a little old fashioned. Get a divorce lawyer now, see if you can prevent his visa from being issued. Find someone who treats you right, and move on.
2006-07-04 06:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by drslowpoke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate when that happens!
its very difficult online to be a person, many timmes.
communication can be halted and is , as yo u can see.
dont write anything you might regret later
in fact dont write anything at all
let him feel the "intrigue" and come around on his own
dont' tell him you are frustrated dont sound mad dont even move a finger until your brain is blank then write to him after he writes to you first
if after doing this and not talking to him or reprimending him , he still telling you he will divorce you, you are better off without him now than down the road with yr b aby or toddler.
Save yr child much anguish and you too, think about what this guy is saying to you! is it worth it to you? to get beaten up emotionally over and over?
Therea re many guys who d be willing to take over that jerk you have for a husband. I m sorry to say. Of course he is killing you. That's his point. What else?
Let him sit in Morocco for a year and have yr baby and find a decent husband.
I just think that women really need to step in and contribute for the maturity of many men by not putting up with any abuse.
2006-07-04 05:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by noteparece? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call his bluff. Just a guess here, but have you recently found out that the baby is a girl? My girlfriend (many years ago) was pregnant by a Saudi guy and all though the pregnancy she lived like a queen. He (back in UAE) send more money than she know how to spend. When the baby was born, it was a girl, and she never heard from him again and ended up having to go on welfare.
PS Do NOT go to Morocco! Haven't you heard the stories of Western women held prisoners in harems for years and years?
2006-07-04 05:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you certainly have quite a serious problem at hand. My suggestions is that you try to let cooler heads prevail and call him in Morocco and talk to him. I get the impression that he is worried about you either trying to abort the baby or cheat on him. The only way you can really stop his fears is by either talking with him for long periods of time over the phone OR simply goto Morocco and be with him. I am almost certain this will stop the issues he has with you. I hope it works out for the best...
2006-07-04 05:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a single mom is hard, but, living with an abuser is life threatening! You cannot allow a child to be in this kind of surrounding. You deserve someone who will love and respect you and your child - this man does neither. It is a terrible thing for you to have to go through pregnant, but, you must get away from this man. This is not any way to live and if you allowed him to be with you and the baby, he will be even more abusive, because your time will be with the baby. I would always try to save a family, but, in this case (that of an abuser) You need to start divorce proceedings.
2006-07-04 11:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by moonmother2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd drop him. Really.
He's poisoning your mind in one of the most delicate experiences you could go through. I dare say you'd be better off with the support of friends and family. If he's emotionally abusive now, why would he not be emotionally and perhaps physically abusive later?
And not just to you, but to your child also. You should really consider if a person who says these things is worthy of your love and a life with you.
These are new days for women, you can do it without him.
2006-07-04 06:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by Matt K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont want to bring your baby into that environment. Get out while you can. If he oulld this now he migh become physically abusive. He will always find something to threaten you with. Phyical harm , money, family, taking your baby away, he is already emotionally abusive dont wait for it to get worse. Give your baby a good life in stable home. Talk to a counselor and I iwsh you the best of luck.
2006-07-04 06:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you might need to break it off with him. When you are pregnant, your significant other should be pampering you and making you feel like the most important thing in the entire world. I mean, you are carrying a continuation of his life... that's his CHILD inside you, and he should be making every effort to make you incredibly happy. It's hard to be a single parent, but it'll be even harder on you and the child if you are in an unhappy relationship. Best of luck with everything.
2006-07-04 06:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Catholic faith is not the only religion. There are a few religions that consider that they've the only correct faith; that implies that if they're proper Catholic's go to hell for not following the supposed right faith. Wow various people answered speedy on this one. Catholics feel that any one who would not comply with their beliefs goes to hell so that is just fair.
2016-08-08 23:37:46 · answer #10 · answered by ducret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It honestly sounds like you'd do better without him. Is this the kind of man you want to raise a child with? If he's verbally abusive now, it will more than likely turn to physical abuse later on. Do yourself and your baby a favor and divorce him.
2006-07-04 05:54:36 · answer #11 · answered by yogazen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋