This maybe a long, drawn-out question, but I'm up to it.
Well I'm friends with this boy, and I guess I'm pretty close to him because he seems like the only person I can talk to about almost anything. He's a bit socially stunted so I dont talk about those thing with him heh. But I feel like he is really trying hard to start some sort of relationship with me. He really kind of pushes it on me. The thing is, I'm not looking for that, at least not in him. I dont find him attractive in that way and I dont want to be in a relationship with him. I know that I may be the first girl he has had a 'chance' with, but I dont want him to feel bad and think it was his fault. I've been after another guy, so I'm afraid it would crush him if I let him down and he saw me with this other guy. I also want to stay friends with him. How do I stay out of a relationship but still be nice to him and be friends? It's bad because he is making things really awkward for us.
2006-07-04 05:27:36 · 3 answers · asked by thefirstake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
alsooo, I recalled say years before, about a boy that I liked but he liked someone else, that "no one should have to just settle". And I was thinking about that and I guess if I just 'settled' I wonld't be fair to myself.
2006-07-04 05:33:13 · update #1
Be as to the point as possible.....you are and will only be friends. He needs to work on his social skills, so that he isn't grasping for what is just familiar to him. He needs to find out how to become unstunted....be honest with him as a friend. Maybe you can push him towards doing things that will help him grow emotionally. Don't allow him to make you feel uncomfortable, that is part of him learning not to push himself on someone............it is unacceptable behavior. Honesty....best policy!!
2006-07-04 05:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 13⤊ 2⤋
In this type of situation, the best is to avoid him, however nasty you may feel you are towards him. Just dont hurt his feelings by saying abusive words....simply avoid his calls, invitations for drinks or night-outs. If he still doesnt get the message, then you need to introduce your boyfriend to him once and all to tell him you are not available. Sometimes you need to think of yourself, otherwise if this drags on he may have wild intentions against you, then it will be too late... You may not know, if he is mentally sound or not. Try introduce some friends to him, so that he may not pay too much attention to you.
2006-07-04 12:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with him, tell him u see him as a good friend but cant see him beyond something more and if he really likes and cares about u he will let u guys remain friends but if he doesnt understand then u have to let go of him as a friend too.
2006-07-04 12:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋