my dad is going out with this woman i hate for 3 years. when i go to my dads house on the weekend he always goes and see her. do u think it is his chose to go and see her or is it mine. he can see her on the week days. so y on the weekend when im with my dad. should i tell my dad if you keep goin to see her im not comen over anymore.
2006-07-04 04:50:58 · 24 answers · asked by daddys lil girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yeah he needs to make up his mind
2006-07-04 04:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by h_wallbanga 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have a serious sit down talk with your dad about how you feel about his girlfriend. Let him know that when you leave your mom's house and come stay with him for the weekend it's because you want to spend time with him. Tell him that you'd like it very much if it could be just you two on the weekends since that's the only time you have to really see him. He should be fine with that, but if for some reason he's not... don't worry about it. His heart will turn to you later on. Let him know that being a father is not just inviting you over for weekends, it's about bonding and paying attention to the details.
2006-07-04 04:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by Gia S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you hate her your father has every right to sleep with anyone he see fit my daughter is not crazy about my other half im marry in a few weeks but i will tell you this little one you are not the person your father sleeps with and what about your mom what are you gonna do if your mom finds a man you dont like leave her too your parents are not choosing to have their sex life end because of you its unfortunate that your parents are not together but the real reason you dont like this lady is because you are angry at the fact that your father is not with you and your mom anymore like some of your freinds families i will tell you this when you grow up and understand that adult relationships can go really wrong and two people who love each other alot grow apart and you date someone else your kids will feel the same way your dad im sure loves you alot and you need not to be selfish and find a way to understand why it is he likes this lady so much because trust me if he did not respect this woman he would not have her around you. listen ask your dad why he likes her and why does he think she is so pretty and then ask him i you and him can have some dad only time together one week end a month and see if that will work but from and adult point of view you really need to grow up and be happy she is not a crack head and treats you like dog crap because there are alot of kids that have their parents lovers who really are very abusive to them when there parents are not around. i have read in the paper over the years where kids have been killed by somebody boyfriend or girlfreind be brave be nice and try and you will learn your parents are only trying to keep you in their lives because they love you alot i hope you become anything in this world you want to be because your smart and you have a caring heart so try okay smile your special
2006-07-04 05:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by lilladyt34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you hate her but she makes your dad happy and if you love him you would be happy for him. Ask him to instead of going to see her to have her come over so that the three of you can do something together. Hide from her that you don't like her and give her a chance. If your dad is going to marry her you will be a some point forced to get to know her. You might find out that she is okay. I know that you resent her because she isn' t your mother and I know that she probably feels threatened by you because you are the child of his ex-wife or girlfriend. Try really talking to her and try to get along . If you have done everything to try to get along and their relationship goes sour then it wasn' t because of you. Your dad will see this and appreciate what you have done.
This is from someone who has been there.
2006-07-04 05:04:35 · answer #4 · answered by Ann S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, your dadis going to do what he pleases unless there is a valid reason for him to absolutely hate her also. You can go on hating on this lady or you can finally come to terms of agreement with her. If she did something wrong to you or is treating you unfairly then forgive her. If you just don't like her because you think she is not good enough for your dad go do something with her, or just try having a good conversation with her. Bottom line you just have to make the best of life no matter what the heck you disagree with.
2006-07-04 04:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father is an adult and makes his own choices and decisions. Maybe he sees her on the weekends because he works or she works and their schedules conflict on weekdays. BUT I do understand where you come from, after my dad died my mom started dating a man I despised more than anything. They got married and my life was hell (or so I thought) but then my mom died. He kicked me out and I was on the streets for a couple years. Now that I am an adult I can look back in hindsight and know he really was a good man and really tried to help our family as much as he could. But I also had to look at things from his perspective-he walked into a family and began raising two teenagers (who had just lost their dad) who were rebelling bad, and in less than 3 years he had nothing, my mom died and we left and never spoke to him again. That is until last year, I finally got the nerve to tell him I was sorry, sorry for disrespecting him and sorry for abandoning him. Instead I felt sorry for myself but I never once thought about his losses...for that I was ignorant but I am glad I have since made it right. It feels good and now I know he never meant to hurt us and NEVER wanted us to hate him, we just did. Please just give it time and don't do anything you may regret, I promise you everything will work out over time-You just have to believe it will.
2006-07-04 05:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by blondieblue98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you dont like her. And explain to him that when you go on his place for the weekend, you want him to be there coz u go there to see him. Tell him "it's ur choice to see this woman. But please don't go out with her, the days we're supposed to spend together"
2006-07-04 04:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by smaragda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, if you like spending the weekends with your dad you should tell him how you feel about him going over to the lady's place instead of spending time with you
2006-07-04 04:52:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can have a talk with him but not to tell him if he keeps seeing her u wont come over, u know its not fair, he loves the both of u so he cant choose one over the other so he has to make time for u as well as her so try and understand him.
2006-07-04 05:22:19 · answer #9 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously it isn't your choice. But you can tell your dad that you'd like to spend some quality time with him when you go at his house. Just tell him how you feel.
2006-07-04 04:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its important that your dad realizes you dont like this woman but im not sure that threatening him like that is the best path. something similar happened to me with my dad but i know how hard it is for parents to reconcile their kids' desires with their own. i think you shouldnt tell your dad you wont come over anymore, but tell him to let you know when she wont be there and that way you can avoid her while making your dad as comfortable as possible. dont let your relationship with your dad get hurt over this!
2006-07-04 04:56:01 · answer #11 · answered by AllEars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋