When pain isn't allowed to manifest into anger, what does it become?

Question

I'm getting divorced again, but this anger thing isn't for me.

Answer 1

Pain can be channalised in so many ways, and its energy harnessed more effeciently than when it manifests in anger,
Look at the people who have suffered mental agony and extreme physical pain as a resul of which so many contributions have been made to humanity becaause of that. take Edward Jenners Example, or take Gandhi as another, There are quite a few I can name. what will anger fetch you, Irrational and illogical charecters and actions? what else.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

When we terminate relationships after a long tour it is sometimes as painful as a death, which kicks in our minds reaction to start the process of resolve and healing. Grief, denial, negotiation, anger or fear, finally acceptance of the incident. If we get caught in or leave out a process we risk having this carry over into our future relationships or mane fest in personal destructive behaviors. Things make everyone mad, get it out , revel in it constructively and move on. Forgiveness is your answer, your mad at you or ex or both, isolate the things in writing that have this anger forming and start to deal with it. Soon you will see that it's past, can't change it and acceptance will be yours for a peaceful mind! Good luck for both of you, it is a difficult time.

Answer 4

Divorce is like the grief process..it goes through stages....
A Normal Life Process
Five Stages Of Grief
1. Denial and Isolation.
2. Anger.
3. Bargaining.
4. Depression.
5. Acceptance.
Denial and Isolation.
At first, we tend to deny the loss has taken place, and may withdraw from our usual social contacts. This stage may last a few moments, or longer.
Anger.
The grieving person may then be furious at the person who inflicted the hurt (even if she's dead), or at the world, for letting it happen. He may be angry with himself for letting the event take place, even if, realistically, nothing could have stopped it.
Bargaining.
Now the grieving person may make bargains with God, asking, "If I do this, will you take away the loss?"
Depression.
The person feels numb, although anger and sadness may remain underneath.
Acceptance.
This is when the anger, sadness and mourning have tapered off. The person simply accepts the reality of the loss.

During grief, it is common to have many conflicting feelings. Sorrow, anger, loneliness, sadness, shame, anxiety, and guilt often accompany serious losses. Having so many strong feelings can be very stressful.

Yet denying the feelings, and failing to work through the five stages of grief, is harder on the body and mind than going through them. When people suggest "looking on the bright side," or other ways of cutting off difficult feelings, the grieving person may feel pressured to hide or deny these emotions. Then it will take longer for healing to take place.

I wish you the very best in the future!!!! Take care of yourself.

Answer 5

From my experience when pain isn't allowed to manifest into anger i get depressed.

Answer 6

It will become anger turned inward, such as depression or physical illness. Where is the anger coming from - yourself or your spouse? With your X, it will go away with time. If you are in a lot of pain you need to talk to a counselor or minister/priest/rabbi.

Answer 7

Pain can manifest itself in many different ways: Depression, anxiety, eating disorders, high blood pressure, etc. Your health will suffer if you don't find a way to work through. Have you tried talking to a trusted friend or counselor? Good luck.

Answer 8

It becomes explosive. Go do what ever it takes to work it out of your system. It's plum not healthy! Put more emphasis on your own well being, rather than using your anger to eat yourself up.

Answer 9

It becomes sever sadness I would just say good riddens and just turn your frown upside down dont let your self get mad just make your self happy to show her that you dont need her to be happy and she will probably not feel so good once she sees that you dont need her
That is the same advice I gave to my brother when he got Divorced and his ex wife realy Regrets leaving and now he wont take her back HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!
I wish you the best of Luck

Answer 10

anger can become what ever you want it to become.... including a big pile of nothing moving on its what counts... begginings count happiness and self acceptance is what counts... anger go and slam a door or brake a plate..and then forget about it. good luck..