Some people lie about everything even when it's not necessary. Should you confront a liar and if so, how do you do it without ruining the relationship?
Is this some kind of neurotic illness? If so, what treatment options are there?
2006-07-04 04:11:18 · 19 answers · asked by Anesia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It is a personality disorder and confrontation will do no good. They will deny ever telling any lie. A so-called confrontation will not even phase them, but, it will make you so frustrated you will be beside yourself.
There is treatment, but, someone would have to be motivated to *get* treatment and most of this type of personality disorder does not see that they need treatment.
Best thing for you is to stay away from this type of person as much as possible. Do not ever think of them as a friend or that you have a relationship, as they are incapable of accepting the responsibility of friendship. There is no relationship, so you needn't worry about ruining it, but, neither will confrontation do any good.
2006-07-04 04:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by moonmother2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think lying is an addiction to some people. I have an aunt who is like that. She's so good at it that she shows no signs at all that she is lying. We seriously can't tell if she is lying or telling the truth! I guess maybe they get sort of a "high" from it. I don't associate with people who I know are compulsive liars. It just gets under my skin too much. I don't know of any treatments for habitual lying. And as far as confrontation, well, that depends on the lie. If it something unimportant, I wouldn't worry too much about it, but if it is something important, I would confront the person. They will probably get mad and defensive at the confrontation because they have been caught. But, they should get over it and will hopefully learn that you don't accept lying; if he/she doesn't get over it, then you deserve a better relationship than that. Hope this helps.
2006-07-17 18:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by T.R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some cases, it is an illness. But, if not, it is usually because they are uncomfortable about themselves. They have low self esteem issues. Also, they lie because they think that they will get into some kind of trouble. These people tend to be very paranoid about themselves, and they try to close out society as much as possible. The only treatment is for them to go and seek help with a social worker. And one way to make sure that the relationship doesn't break is to try and see what the problem is. Let them know that they are not alone. Once they are convinced that you are listening to them, then they are less paranoid and will open up to you. Good luck!
2006-07-17 13:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maturity. It is shown in the costume, still more in the customs. Material
weight is the sign of a precious metal, moral weight is the sign of a precious
man. Maturity gives finish to his capacity and arouses respect. A composed
bearing in a person forms a façade to his soul. It does not consist in the
insensibility of fools, as frivolity would have it, but in a calm tone of
authority. With people of this kind sentences are orations and acts are deeds.
Maturity puts a finish on a person for each is so far complete only according as
he possesses maturity. On ceasing to be a child a person begins to gain
seriousness and authority. It is this that he must face before he can define himself as good intentions to others and himself.
2006-07-19 09:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Liars are liars are liars.
They do it so much they don't even know they are doing it.
Try doing it to them sometime. Give them a taste of their own medicine.
Get their hopes up about something and then admit that you lied to them.
Maybe after they realize how it hurt them, they won't be apt to do it to people they care about.
If they continue to do it.... I wouldn't have a relationship with them at all. Good friendships, marriages, etc. are all based on trust. With a compulsive liar, you will never have trust.
Respect yourself enough to walk away.
2006-07-04 11:19:00 · answer #5 · answered by Primrose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why people are like this but i do know one and there have been times i have pointed it out their lies and exaggerations and this person will tap dance around what i have mentioned. Fortunately this person is not a relative or friend but i do come in contact, very often, with this person. I deal with him by accepting this is how he is and that i can't believe much of what he tells me. So i listen to him as if he were reading me a story out of a child's book.
2006-07-04 11:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by mia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i lived with a pathological liar for 23 years and no matter what u add to the word bottom line is they always lie!they have become accustomed in lying that they lost the sense of differentiating the truth and and the lies and their lies is their truth!got me!i have put up with it for 23 years and God knows why!but as a friend i advised you not to talk to the devil or be near them as they will always try to devour you!don't analyze them anymore as it will get harder for you to leave them as we are people who tends to care about a person and give reasons to justify their actions as i always did in my life.Only God can change the heart of men and i do think theres no treatment for that my dearest!
2006-07-19 10:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by angelseth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make stuff up when your with them, most compulsive liars also like to one up everybody, so see how outrageous a lie they are willing to tell, then laugh.
2006-07-04 12:35:16 · answer #8 · answered by sooperman1234 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
liars are to be confronted but in a nice way especially when she's ur friend, just ask her why she lies alot and its not good cos it might get her in trouble one day.
2006-07-04 12:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i refuse to be friends with someone who lies ,they cause nothing but grief and sorrow , stay away from that kind , or u will be sorry u waisted your time , there r good people out there and better things to do with ur life so have fun and enjoy yourself
2006-07-04 11:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by cc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋