wants to be intimate with their students...some really just want to be good friends nothing more...so get your head out of the gutter and be more opened minded!
2006-07-04 04:00:10 · 9 answers · asked by goodfunteacher 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
I didn't do anything wrong but if I say I am friends with my student....I am another Mary K...until I actually sleep with the student no one should say I am another Mary K!
2006-07-04 04:07:26 · update #1
There is nothing wrong with teachers being friendly with their students, however, it is possible for teachers to become TOO friendly with their students even if they aren't being intimate. Teachers should always be acting as a role model for their students. Getting too close to students personally is not usually appropriate. I do think teachers SHOULD be approachable by students and should make their students feel comfortable enough to come to them with problems that they may have, but teachers should not be friendly enough to confide in the students about personal things.
2006-07-04 04:09:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone does think that. However, is is still considered inappropriate to cultivate a close relationship with a student. Teachers are in a position of authority and must maintain that authority. That is very difficult to do if you are friends with a student.
Being close friends with a student can also bring about accusations of favoritism and it can very difficult to prove that you are not treating that student differently from other students.
In general, being friends with a student is considered to be very unprofessional. A teacher can take a particular interest in a student, but in these cases they should act in loco parentis, not as friends.
2006-07-04 11:06:34 · answer #2 · answered by caleythia1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because it skews the relationship. there is a difference between friend-friend and teacher-student relationships. friend-friend is an equal relationship - almost symbiotic. teachers are authority figures over their students. you have to maintain that authority, at least while the student is still in school. you can't do that if you're good friends. sooner or later you may have to pull rank. that will always throw the friendship out of balance.
besides that, why would you want to be good friends with a child? what are you going to talk about with that child?
that's why there's so much suspicion to the "hybrid" relationship. it's inapproproate - personally and professionally.
2006-07-04 11:27:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anthony Taurus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether with a child or adult, a teacher is in a "supervisory role" as such in the event of wrongful conduct, at the very least the conduct can be considered sexual harassment (yes, even if the student is of the same sex)...
Moreover, many times students...yes, young and old... are very impressionable... you are in a position of authority, you 'act like you know stuff they don't', there is a 'dominance/submission' decorum in class, and that is all in the design and nature of the situation....
If these students are younger than you are... why do you want to talk or hang out with youngsters with whom you have no connections? They have parents who can guide them and friends their own age....simply, act yours.
2006-07-04 18:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by Time-on-My-Hands 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is important to form positive relationships with pupils but it is also important to retain the position of a figure of authority. You should bear in mind that if you are working with children/teenagers that perceiving someone as a friend before teacher can do more harm than good in terms of the level of respect they will give to you and your lessons. Look upon your position as one of a model of good practice. Of course you should cultivate a happy, friendly environment for learners, but all of your students should feel as welcomed and valued as each other. Having one or two favorites and making this obvious will do you no favours with the student body or your collegues. Bear in mind that every action and word you make you should be able to honestly defend if called into question as is likely to happen in the world we work in.
2006-07-04 16:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by bertha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know. It's bull****. I've had similar issues come up, and I teach adults! A lot depends on the age of the student. So do what you know to be right, and be cautious. Be completely professional, but you can still offer guidance and show concern. After all, if you love teaching, you don't want to jeopardize your career.
2006-07-04 12:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by sunny1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry i come from a different part of the world, who is Mary K? Ppl can think all they want to think. So long as you're doing things properly then i don't think you should care what others think ...
2006-07-04 11:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by Azureskies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you feeling a little guilty about something?? You sound angry.
2006-07-04 11:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She made it bad for the rest of the good teachers...............
2006-07-04 11:03:20 · answer #9 · answered by Ralph G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋