The story is this, my son's father and I were together for four years. We went through some pretty rough stuff....my son was born extremely premature, we moved away from all friends and family in TX, then from TX all the way to PA to be in my hometown so my son would have grandparents and aunts/ uncles etc. Long story short, I was extremely post partum for three years while we made all these changes. We split up about six months after the move from TX. I sued for child support and a court order is in place. Nine months after we split up we reunited and are now planning a wedding. (No it's not because of the money) I would like to drop the child support to show my faith in the solidarity of our marriage plans. If I do so, will we have to pay court costs and fees? Is dropping the support order even an option? The money comes back into the household so either way is okay, I'd just like to show him I believe in our future. Thanks for your help!
2006-07-04 03:53:59 · 20 answers · asked by harlow6b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well if he wasnt late with payments in most states if he was he would have to pay for the late payments...but if you guys get married the answer is yes you can drop the child support because now you both have sole custody for the child wich means that after marriage you are both legally parents of the minor child and reside in the same household.. but in florida when that happend wht they do is stop the child support after you take your marriage certificate to the child support office and then they will most likely to give him monthly payments until he pay for what ever amount he ows during the time he was court order to pay child support.. they might give him a low payment a month.. but yes if you get married just notify the child support people show them the marriage certificate and they will and have to drop it. by the way i hate the child support system is nothing but a big eating cancer that take advantage of your situation so they can get money too.... im glad you guys are getting together to shot them flesh eaters of your backs. Child support works for those parents that are so dead beats that just dont want to respond to their responsabilities any other way.... but when good parents step up and try to asume this people just dont give a damn and the good pay the same consequences as the bad... this people cant defined difference they just want theirs because they get some of the money that the parent pays.... that is what makes me so mad about that system...somebody need to change their policies. good luck to you guys and may god bless your new family.
2006-07-04 04:12:05 · answer #1 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would highly recommend that you wait until after your marriage to petition the court to drop the support order (the court may not even consider it until your marriage is final). Yes, you would have to pay associated fees with the petition, but you may be able to do it yourself vs. hiring a lawyer. Check with the court clerk or on your state's courts website to get more information.
If your husband-to-be is pressuring you to drop the support order, I'd be very suspicious. Realistically, if he doesn't pay and you don't complain, then the court is none the wiser. Just for your own security and that of your child, wait until you're married to make any changes.
2006-07-04 10:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Gretch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know TX law and am not a lawyer but have paid support in 2 states and yes you should be able to drop the order-you can file something yourself-there may be cost-contact the prosecutor in the county this was set-they could probably do that for you and then no fees as well-they will advise you to wait until married i am sure as would i.
2006-07-04 10:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by The Riddler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling if things are going as marvelous as you say why are you asking these questions? It just seems ridiculous that two people who are so much in love as your self with you baby father that left you for six month because you was post par tum and what taking care of his child by yourself in such mental state I hope that wasn't the case but any way's thank GOD for your family. I say leave the order in place especially if he hasn't mention anything about it. Don't rock the boat just ride the Waves until you reach the shore.....
2006-07-04 11:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by aboitoi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he pay through the court, or does he give the money directly to you? If he pays you directly, you don't HAVE to go through the court system. If he pays through the court, you need to go through the court system.
Either way, I'd recommend going to court to have the child support order stopped. That way it's all taken care of officially.
2006-07-04 10:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by Mama Pastafarian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can drop it. Go file with child support and order of forgiveness for the money. As long as you weren't on welfare at the time. If you were he will still have to pay a proportion back to welfare. Best of luck to both of you in your new life together.
2006-07-04 10:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by sweeetkisses2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the one who put in the child support order you can drop it at anytime. Justgo back to court and tell the judge that you two are getting married and as long as you don't recieve aide from the gov. like welfare or anything they will drop it.
2006-07-04 10:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would have to go to court and ask the judge to take it away. That is the only way a court order can be changed.
2006-07-04 10:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really have gotten together and ironed out the odds, it does not really matter that this is in place. it is only a piece of paper that you give value to if you want, and for enforcement purposes if payment is not being made. if u are the only one tracking payment, why should it matter if it is in place or not. just get on with life and think about what really matter in the future rather than trying to offer a token of trust. what should matter is the real ability to trust and get on with more important things in life...
2006-07-04 11:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not going to pay any court cost just go to the family court and tell them you and your son father have reconciled and you want to drop the child support that's your decision and u can drop them if u want to they cant make u keep wanting it go to the courts and tell them
2006-07-04 10:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋