my bf of over 10 years is becoming increasingly moody where he will go off at me for the smallest things and turn them into a massive issue even if I haven't seen them as an issue in the first place. It scares me a little as I feel as though I am now having to constantly walk on eggshells as I dont know how he's going to react. Before you say straight out to ditch him..., we have 2 children and have been together for over a decade. I'm just getting tired of the,' it's all about me mentality", I don't know what to do anymore and I feel really trapped. I love him but am finding it increasingly harder to handle the situation. Please, some constructive advice would be appreciated.
2006-07-04 03:42:00 · 9 answers · asked by Princess 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's not quite 30 yet and doesn't work because he has a degenerative back injury, yes, he suffers from depression and has become a bit of a hermit but, his moods are unstable and even with trying to understand them, I no longer can. It's like I've given everything I can and it keeps getting thrown back in my face time after time.
2006-07-04 03:53:17 · update #1
Considering he's not working due to a back problem, and suffers from depression.......I think that's your answer. A man is usually raised in the mindset that he is the breadwinner for a family. If he can't do that due to things out of his control (back), that in itself could cause depression. Depression can cause mood swings. Is he on medication for the depression? Is he on medication for the back injury? If yes to both, the medications could be interacting negatively with each other, causing the moods. If he's on any type of medication, it could have side effects of mood swings. Research any medication he's on and have a talk with his doctor. It could be a problem out of his control. Good luck.
2006-07-04 04:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by bluez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My X caused me to have 2 nervous breakdowns and we had a young son together, so I can relate to what you are going through. It sounds like he needs major psychicatric counseling/treatment - talk to his doctor. You also need to get into see a good therapist. This can be an abusive relationship even though there is no physical violence, this is what I went through. A good counselor should be able to help you sort out the details. Then if that is the situation, you really do need to run, not walk, out of that situation. It sounds like your heart is already heading that way anyway. Good luck to you!
2006-07-04 11:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by wapitig8r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only could help him so much. You're going to need to speak to his doctor and ask him what steps to take in handling this problem. Remember there is no reason in this world for any man to touch a woman. He can go off and hurt you in front of your children. Don't be crazy get help now. My aunt boyfriend kill her some years ago. He beat her in front of her four children. Do you want to bring that kind of pain to your children. Don't let you love for him take you out of this world. You have some great answers to your question and now you need to react. My prayers are with you and your children. Good Luck!!!!
2006-07-04 11:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by Basilchef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's just tired and needs a change of things suggest he go away for the weekend by hisself or with some buddies or u take the kids and go away for the weekend and give him a chance to be alone in the house it could be he just needs a little me time like we ladies do or could it be the job or $ problems or just the 2 of u get away for the weekend if that doesnt work just sit him down and ask him whats wrong
2006-07-04 10:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yall 2 need to go to couseling or u need to sit him down and ask him whats wrong.. Maybe something is bothering him and he don't know how to tell you.. Maybe he's just stressed over work or something and he takes it out on you.. yall 2 need to sit down and not fight and tell him how you are scared and you feel like ur on eggshells with him.. Just Talk to him and maybe everything will work out and he will tell you whats bothering him so much..
2006-07-04 10:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by Crazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u both dnt undrstand each othr well or may b thr is lac of understanding between u.u hve said ur bf is moody.it doesnt mean that he should nt undrstand u.i think u both need to undrstand each othr first.may b sme communication prob or watever bt to know each othr feelings is vry important.
2006-07-04 10:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by iman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His back injury is causing all this. He has low self-esteem and probably has depression. He needs treatment.
2006-07-04 12:10:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its what you call mid life crisis,even if he is only early30s,he probably feels trapped at times ,or maybe he used to smoke pot,or weed,this is a side effect later in life
2006-07-04 10:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by dumplingmuffin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK YOURSELF IS THIS WHAT YOU SIGNED UP FOR YOUR NOT THE FAMILY DOG AND DESERVE BETTER WHO CARES IF YOU HAVE KIDS TOGETHER IS IT FAIR TO THEM TO SEE THEIR MOM GET TREATED LIKE CRAP
2006-07-04 13:26:47 · answer #9 · answered by lilladyt34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋