on saturday night my boyfriend fell over and has broken his ankle really badly. he is still in hospital bc he has had to have plates and pins to line it up again...
my dilemma is that he is really depressed that this has happened because he has only just got over a major shoulder injury which has taken over a year to fix and which at one point broke us up bc he was so down and angry towards me about it....we have been back together for 5 months (we broke up for 3 weeks!) and since then everything has been amazing between us, but i am really worried that it is going to go back to how it was now that he has done another serious injury!
how do i help him nt to get so down about it, and try and make it as easy for him as possible to help him and our relationship?
another thing that is bothering me is that when he was still drunk and in the hospital sat night he told me that he had been using steriods for a couple of weeks, which has really upset me coz i know their v.dangerous...
2006-07-04 03:39:33 · 8 answers · asked by H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well the fact that he has been taking steroids would worry me especially because they make the user more irritable. So I'd worry about that breaking you up cuz no matter how much your there for him it wont change the fact that he has broken his ankle. It's always good to feel you are supported but if he doesnt appriciate it then i would leave it be and wait til he realizes that you care for him but wont put up with him mistreating you. If you let him get away with getting angry with you for something that is his fault then he'll keep doing it. and anytime something bad happens he'll blame you. and that will begin to bring you down i wouldn't put up with it. Give him the support he deserves but dont let him walk all over you.
2006-07-04 04:15:49 · answer #1 · answered by commander_fernandez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying that goes,"You can take a problem and either become bitter or better because of it. It depends on your response." Sure, when we get hurt, we are upset at first, but then, we HAVE to deal with it, and look at what we have left, NOT at what we have lost. He still has a foot connected, and he still has his girlfriend. He sounds like a big baby. And let me tell you....if he is doing steriods, what do you think causes all his anger? That is what steroids do....they cause a person to become angry and bitter and violent. So, instead of worrying about HIM, you need to look out for YOU. Is this the kind of person you can see yourself with 5 or 10 years from now? Is this the kind of person you would want to father YOUR children? Well, then there you go. You have your answer. Leave him in his misery. Give him an ultimatum NOW. Tell him that things have to change. He has to quit the "drugs", and he has to look for the good in things, instead of always being such a baby. I know 80 year old WOMEN that are tougher than him.
2006-07-04 10:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your boyfriend has some major issues he needs to work out for himself. It also sounds like he may need some mental counseling. There is a lot more going on here than you can fix. He is crying out for help but needs professional help and you would be wise to back off and let him get it. The fact that he is drinking alcohol and using steroids in itself is very self destructive behavior. I don't think he likes himself very much and you are not the one to improve that problem at this time. You may make the situation worse.
2006-07-04 10:54:48 · answer #3 · answered by Judy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u sound like a very understanding person. May I please share an old saying with you "Walk a mile in his shoes" First is your boyfriend sounds like a very athletic person so something he is not able to fully do what he is used to doing. His routine has been changed. So what about giving him some alternatives like movies etc. also assure him that his condition is temporary. Does this help?
2006-07-04 10:49:18 · answer #4 · answered by cloudwatcher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.. this is tough. try to just be there for him, let him know that if he needs to talk that you're there. also when he gets real down and starts getting mad at you try not to get offended or hurt; just take a break. if it's serious consider getting professional help for his depression and his steriod use.
2006-07-04 10:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him-tell him how you feel and that you just worry cause you love him,and you know it sucks for him and you understand that he is upset and angry and that you wish it hadn't happend,but that you there for him always.Just talk to him-if he don't understand he's being unreasonable and insensative!
2006-07-04 10:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by Celestial_Magick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can say to yourself , do i wanna be with a guy who treats me good when hes not got substances in his system . or would i rather be with a guy who treats me good all the time
2006-07-04 10:50:14 · answer #7 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if something stupid like that make him leave you you don't need him. you need someone better. because you don't need all this in your life. i would think he would want you by his side now. if he loses you he stupid. i hope it all works out. and you can be happy.
2006-07-04 10:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by Chris Bell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋