2006-07-04 03:35:30 · 18 answers · asked by misssheilaofori 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ARE YOU NUTS??????IF YOU CAN'T COMMUNICATE WHAT HAVE YOU GOT------I THINK YOUR PROJECTING AN ILLUSION
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2006-07-16 20:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by alice b 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait........patience is virtue. never rush into a situation without first looking at your opponent to see the nearest move of attack.
Never let your left hand know what your right hand is doing.
What makes a person burst is what they hear and what they know by opinion or fact, but what makes a person shreik, is when they dont' know or dont' hear and that makes them nervous.
You fell in love, your in love and that is simple, but paitence for that love to bloom is better than pouring water and water over it because eventually it will wither and die.
A seed of love and you water it and it grows and becomes this
beautiful flower. You cant' rush the growth or you kill it. In time it will grow.
If we look at how nature acts towards their sibblings we can see Motherhood at its finest. A Mother Squirrel came down the tree and picked up one of the little ones that had fallen and was so curious about the world, but yet was too young to adventure. I witnessed the Mother Squirrel pick up her baby as it was crying and hauled it back up in the hole in the tree. What a sight!!! Humans are very bad in this nature because we tend to let our destruction destroy ourselves rather than doing what is right. Nature has always been an answer to many questions you may have. Just look at the Geese....they are Monogamus and mate for life unless they should lose their mate to death.
If a Geese can mate for life and stick with that one mate why cant' we as humans do the same thing.
I seen a Mother Goose on her nest while the Male not far away waited patiently for her day after day after day never saying I'm bored, I'm tired I want to move on....none of this. That Geese waited for his mate and that is the most beautiful scene you can ever witness by human eyes..............NATURE IS THE ANSWER TO YOUR QUESTIONS!!
2006-07-16 11:17:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to emphasize (a month ago) you fell in love.It sounds like he did not feel the same as you. Yes I believe in love at first site but not in your case honey.He put the distances between you two for a reason,heed the warning.Walk away now and spare your self further heart ache.If he comes back then bingo.
2006-07-19 07:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be the type that rush things. 3 months may be too short to convince anyone about his/her perception. However, I will say you didn't play safe. If you had concentrated on creating avenues for making him more realistic rather than putting it to him that he is illusive, it would have been better.
To your question, you've got to be sure that he equally loves you. If you are sure of this then the problem is (almost) over.
The old saying is applicable:
If you love someone, set him/her free
If he/she comes back he/she is yours
If he doesn't, he/she was never yours
Good luck.
2006-07-04 10:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by Sage_Learner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you sound very controlling for one. that is not to say that he isn't. You actually married this person knowing their shortcomings? you do NOT try to change another. It sounds like you don't want to have made a mistake. You will be fortunate to get him back. Illusive...is that your only complaint? Honey YOU need a head doctor. Why did you marry either someone you didn't know or are y so in love with love that marriage seems to be the panacea of conjugal bliss?
The person whom you marry is just that. it does not sound as though you are in love. we make up for in a relationship what is lacking in another quite often. What is it you really want, him? or for him to change? If it is the latter then it is YOU who needs to change.
2006-07-04 10:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he been illusive? If so then you have no reason to be sorry for what you said. If he can't talk it out with you then you need to move on because this is a glimpse of how your life will be with this man.
2006-07-19 11:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is being elusive and is denying it, dump him. You don't want to have three kids and find out that he is dumping you to shack up with the 19 year old cashier at the Piggly Wiggly.
2006-07-16 20:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by JAMES11A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoaaaaaaaaa. YOu move very quick with the word "LOVE"
The guy is illusive becasue he isn't intersted. Don';t move so quickly with a guy. Love is a big thing.not to be taken lightly.
I would imagine this guy just wants you to learve him alone.
No guy wants a girl who is after him when he isn't interested
2006-07-18 01:36:49 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is gone, then he doesnt want to be with you. Sorry! Find someone else and then dont tell them they have been illusive. lol
2006-07-18 10:50:55 · answer #9 · answered by Jan G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess tell him you didnt mean anything you said to him... but theres always more fishes in the sea
2006-07-04 10:40:11 · answer #10 · answered by Crazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you were only kidding and cook a nice dinner for him.
Maybe he'll forget you said it.
2006-07-18 13:40:05 · answer #11 · answered by diniandbo812 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋