I have been married for 2 years and every time the I make love to my wife all she wants me to do is go down on her and then have intercourse. She doesn't even like me to hold her after. I tried talking to her about it but she just says that is how she is and she is just not a typical woman.
2006-07-04 03:16:41 · 16 answers · asked by Duece 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
From the sound of your question I'd say she is one self serving, self absorbed *****! She ALLOWS you to have intercourse, but, only after she has been satisfied? Next time get it up, get it in, and get it done. Then you roll over and go to sleep. A few nights of that and she will ask you what the h---- is going on. Hopefully this will open up a dialog for her to confess what is going on in her life that she feels debasing your manhood is good to her. Or perhaps there is something deeper that she is afraid to tell you. Do not be afraid to consult with a good sex therapist. Ask your Physician for advice and referral if necessary. Good luck.
2006-07-04 03:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by whimster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is a new change in her, and I take it that it is, then I think she might be considering something or someone else.
A marriage counselor I once talked to said that if spouses make emotional or physical connections with other people then they start feeling guilt and start thinking of all the bad things about their spouses and start to pull away. Kissing I think is more intimate than sex.
You may want to get some outside help. Also like already suggested read the 5 language of love. And try and make it more comfortable for her to come out and tell you the truth about what is bothering her.
2006-07-04 05:08:06 · answer #2 · answered by Cimmerian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not normal I am sorry to say..and she is right ...she is not the typical woman .....She is very lucky to have you..its a shame she doesn't appreciate it.
....sure going down on her is a form of foreplay.....
I am curious about her age .....Did she kiss you before you were married? If so, then I would have some concerns with her and the change in her behavior pattern.
I hope you can work it out!! Just remember...there is nothing wrong with you!!
2006-07-04 05:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by Pammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not just about intercourse, but it actually involves alot of understanding between the two people. Love is actualy all about satisfying your partner, obviously this should come from both sides. If this is not the case, try to indulge in some other activities that might make your partner more intimate.....like a body massage, reading erotic books, trying different sexual positions etc.
2006-07-04 03:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by Ankur G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds as if she has some personal issues. Two years, she does not sound like a women in love. It seems real empty. All women loves to be hold, that is our makeup. But something happened in her pass that is affecting her now. I was something like that but my issue was my ex and i did not talk, did not do things together. I was always cooking and cleaning and taking care of the house. I felt unloved and it can be REAL hard to have sex. But you sound like an affectionate person, I think you should talk with her about this issue, carefully.
2006-07-04 03:44:38 · answer #5 · answered by vhat40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she catholic? Was her mother affectionate towards her? If her mother was more like a business woman and did not kiss and hug her, then it's normal for her not to be touchy or want to be more romantic.
You also have to think that it's sort of normal here in the USA since they raise their children differently. They raise them to sleep alone in another room of the house. In other cultures we tourch, feel, sleep next to our kin. American's seem cold to the rest of the world because they are not used to alot of affection within the family.
So...yes it's normal.
2006-07-04 03:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by redgirl9992004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the book the 5 love langages. You and her need to read it. No matter what your problems are you will find the answer there, but both of u have to read it.. My Husband and I had the same problem, after 2 years. We read the book togather and are much happier now. we been husband and wife for 6 years now and we act like we just statred to date.
2006-07-04 03:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by Sekkennight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Foreplay for me is not just caressing your partner right before having sex with her. Foreplay should be done by both spouses the whole day, it is setting the tone for your lovemaking. Try calling her from your office and tell her sweet nothings, or call her sweet names, or send her flowers, anything that will set her mood for a good lovemaking.
2006-07-04 03:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by Seeker 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is unusual, but everyone has different sexual preferences, ask yourself if she was like this when you were first together,if not, then something has changed, and not for the better!
otherwise; if she has always been like this, then I would say that her sex drive is high and she has no need for forplay, and once it is satisfied, her needs are fulfilled, and her bodys impulses cease, I have met some women in my time that were like this.
2006-07-04 03:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by trekkie1972566 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not normal most all women like to be held and kissed and made to feel special before and after the act she is selfish and needs help
2006-07-04 03:26:39 · answer #10 · answered by neesatutt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋