How do I know if I've had a REAL orgasm?

Question

DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU'RE COMING AND WHEN YOU'VE ACTUALLY COME?

I'm a 20 yr old girl and have had 3 boyfriends. With all of which I was sexually active since I was 15. But I find that the 2 best orgasms I've had were when I watched porn. Once when I was sexless for 5 months and just recently when my boyfriend was away for a month. I don't enjoy masturbating so I don't even do it at all, except on a few occasions in the 5 months that I was single. But I was curious one time and watched this porn while my bf was away and gosh did I enjoy it!

Of all three boyfriends, my current is the best in both bed and in handling the relationship. I though what I was having with him was already the best but since I watched porn while he was away, it seemed far better that when we have sex together.

Oh, and does it really wet the bed when a girl cums? Because I don't wet myself THAT much.

Please help!

Answer 1

How do I know if I've been run over by a steamroller?

Can you still talk coherently afterwards? If the answer is yes, then you didn't have a real orgasm.

Oh and on wetness that varies from one girl to the next.

Answer 2

The female orgasm is slightly more complicated than the male. Thats because we have 2 different types of orgasms. The G-spot orgasm and the Clitoral orgasm. Generally when we orgasm though it is the same...a build up of pleasure eventually ending in a climax. You can have all types of orgasms. Mini ones, regular ones, and like you have described- ones that are felt much greater. It depends on the situation, how much control you exert over your orgasm and the circumstance i.e how turned on you are.
Have you tried watching porn WITH your boyfriend on the odd occasion? You might find you get the best of both worlds!
In reference to the last thing you were worried about. Some girls DO what they call 'squirt' when they come from G-spot stimulation. If you are one of these girls, count yourself lucky! Porn actresses like Cytherea have made a living from it! You would be amazed how turned on that can make some men.
In summary, dont worry so much about your orgasms in different situations, instead focus on how to improve them and your sex life with your boyrfriend. Sex is about having fun and giving and receiving pleasure. As soon as you can 'let yourself go' to really experience sex and embrace all that comes with it, your orgasms are sure to improve :)

Answer 3

No you shouldnt really be wetting the bed. At all. Maybe some do, try going to the bathroom before sex, cuz it is pressure on the bladder ya know. If your not sure if your having them w/ the guy then you are not having them! The porn one, total loss of inhibitions can lead to great things. You were alone, aroused and comfortable, you need to find that comfort with the guy now, and accept that sometimes it is always more powerful when self inflicted. Enjoy them all!!

Answer 4

Well you think you know now that you have had one since it is weaker with your boyfriend, so your really not asking what does it feel like because you already know. So porn gets you hot, so your boyfriend could work ondoing some more kinky **** with you then maybe you will have a better one. And plus it is different when your masterbating you know exactly how to touch yourself. Yes some women ejaculate when they ***, its not that they pee, not at all its just how some women ***......and I am 22 and I dont say things like "oh gosh did I like it" I laughed because I assumed you were kidding...

Answer 5

You can achieve similar degrees of climax with your boyfriends as you have with the porn -- it's about you being in the mood, and then taking the time to get you there.

When your boyfriend comes home, start insisting on better foreplay -- if he warms up your engine first, the experience will be better for you both.

And no, most women don't expel much fluid at climax.

Answer 6

people, especially woman, have orgasims based on different stimpulation. Dont wory about the detial. Whe if have a feeling as though you body and mind have exploded, you are there. Often woemn orgasm best during masterbation as there are aware of their personal preferances. While men, an orgasim is primarily a way to propogate the race. Enjoy yourself t the fullest. Lean what gives you pleasure and hum to coax your partner to conribute. Have fun leanring. Let us know your progress

Answer 7

not all women actually "ejaculate" (the wet bed you're speaking of) when they orgasm.

as for the porn, I'd suggest asking your boyfriend to watch one with you if that's what gets you hot. you'd probably be surprised by his reaction since most guys I know like porn too. he'll probably think it's really cool that you want to watch too.

Answer 8

u will know when ur really coming...ur toes curl...u feel a warm tingling all over ur body omg...u just know u r...and when u *** it depends on how hard and how intense...usually the amount of fluid is different for all women, but as experience shows u can control ur orgasms and also have multiple orgasms, i do and ive also *** so intense i have squirted...omg...is the ultimate... the more ur worked up, as in foreplay, the harder u will ***, women r like finger prints....no 2 r the same, so we experience different things....

Answer 9

Because women have so much stuff going through their head to actually enjoy sex and then blame it on the guy, when in reality it's their own damn fault

Answer 10

If you are shaking when your done, it was good. If you like watching porn and it helps do it, im sure your boyfriend wont mind