What's a better way to build social skills? (see details)?

Question

If you were to want to become better at being socialble, do you think it would be more helpful to spend most of your time and energy on meeting new people as often as possible, or developing your own current relationships?

I realize that both is the ideal answer, but supposing you had only enough time to REALLY develop one or the other?

Answer 1

My experience is that one good frendship will learn you much more about people and social skills than many superficial firendships.

I think many people would agree with me - because most people - and even children try to have a best friend.

Answer 2

To develop new social skills observation of others and listening to what they say when interacting with others is important. A proper command of the English language ( if you speak English) is very important. Being able to both listen and contribute to a conversation without it revolving around your personal opinions or thoughts, but letting others voice their opinions without deriding what they think is also important. There are many books on the subject, some with very old fashioned ideas granted, but still valuable in what they say.. Joining an Effective speaking group is a good idea. It teaches you how to speak to people and also gives you self-confidence. Also depends on what peer group you belong to, and type of social skills you are looking for.

Answer 3

trust us better! re to ur answer on chunky women: And not true about women being lazy, u put us as goddesses, I assume ur a real shallow asshole. Some of it is genetic. "Men" are lazier creatures. I'm not but I know some women who are. And they are not lazy. My sis although has some lucky hidden thing. But then she's not all that big. But she plays golf, and it is a work-out, especially on her college team (before 03) they would do steps a lot, and work-out, and play and practice. She works out a lot. And practices. She works on her stomach and such also. There is no way she is lazy. She is gone all day when she plays 4 hours, ur required to walk and if u've seen the courses I have it's not easy! She played in hs and she played BBALL. I did gymnastics, dance, soccer, golf, and bball and school pe.

Answer 4

Both, but ask the people in your current relationships to help you make contact with others that they know. We all know how hard it is just to go out and public and meet people; that's why many people spend so much time on-line.

The key to being sought after socially is to listen more than talk; we learn very little about other people while talking. Listen, observe, and make eye contact with people who interest you - many of them are just as hesitant and shy as you may be, but they're just better at hiding their insecurities.

Answer 5

Both. Get out in public more. Socialize more. Join groups. Get a job that works with the public. Yet continue to build on the current relationships you have.

Answer 6

both.
you should meet new people because it gives you practice for meeting strangers. you are not always going to be surrounded by people you know. if you did not meet new people then you are just going to get comfortable around the ones you know. that would defet the whole purpose of developing new social skills.

your friends are your friends practice on them, then go out into the real world

Answer 7

You should do a lot of both in my opinion. that way you'll get the perfect balance. Put don't push the relationship part to fast wait til U find some1 u realy like.

Answer 8

both you need to meet and experience new people and situations in order to develop the relations that you already have