Do you think people are capable of change after theyve committed adultry more then once?

Question

Everyone wants to believe that people can change but what is the reality of it all and is it possible? If someone hasn't learned at this point, do you even consider giving them another shot to change if this time they seem sincere and are willing to seek the professional help that they need? or is this just the kind of cycle where they repent now and then fall back into their bad habits later once things are comfortable again? I dont mean to ask so many questions but they all fall within the same context of people and whether or not it is really possible to change...any thoughts and/or experiences are welcomed...thanx:)

Answer 1

It is generally a pattern of behavior that the person is unwilling to change. I would not give them any additional chances. The first time is unexcusable. Any time there after just solidifies the fact that they are not comitted to the relationship, and that they are not interested in the feelings of the family or of their spouse. This type of person should not be trusted, and can only attempt a new life with another person after getting help, and proving that they have changed within. They need to do all of the work in repairing themself.

Answer 2

That is why I have a ex wife. She cheated 3 times and swore after each time she was going to change. I'm sorry but they wont change. They only pay lip service. I feel if someone really wanted to change they can if they get the help they need. But they REALLY MUST WANT TO CHANGE. 9 times out of 10 they wont change. So the odds aint to good about the succes rate. But maybe your person is differant. Good luck if you decide to stay and work it out.

Answer 3

I believe anyone can change, if they want to. Change comes from within. Are you willing to accept the changes? Will you be able to trust this person again? You can't ever really know if he's really changed, only time will tell. You cannot get into his brain to find out what's going on. But if he is willing to go to counseling, that is a first step. You might want to go to counseling also. With him or on your own. You can only work on yourself, he's responsible for himself and his actions.

Good luck.

Answer 4

it is possible to change if they really want to i no from experience myself i used to cheat on my boyfriend and when he finnally found out i had to make that decsion of did i love him enough to stop hurting him and did i really want him enough and i did relize that it was not worth loosing the person ,and it has been over a year and things are actually great and im glad that i changed but sometimes we dont no what we have until its to late everyone makes a mistake now and then its just do we learn from it or not some do some dont,good luck

Answer 5

I don't think you can change a cheater.Have you ever head once a cheater always a cheater?i really do believe that you can tell how a person is going to be now by looking at how they was in the past.

Answer 6

Too many times too many chances they are not going to change if they didn't learn the first time and they didn't learn the second time then for damn sure they ain't going to learn the third time

Answer 7

i c u now !
repeat offenders huh hell no that is too many chances in my book but it is up to you if you believe that he is sincere than try if not peace out you sound very biter we should never allow our partners to take the joy of life out of us if he is just taking and taking with nothing offer but pain it is not for you you sound like you think things through and try to give it your best but if it is all one sided maybe he does not want to be right and it is not your fault he just ain't man enough .

Answer 8

Yes, people can change. I did.