im married with korean man(i was 23)..almost 2 years we fighting a lot..after married i found my husband not care enough and scold me a lot even im not wrong..never say sorry..i founf he sent some short message n picture to another woman last 5 months ago..i ask him to end it up...he end ed it but he said to that woman that he have to end it bcause her mother doesnt like her..not bcause his married(what a silly reason)..he just do what he want..even we never go to movies after 2 years ..we live together with parents in law..with complicated korean culture...he didnt want to move out..im so lonely n feel not being loved..even on my b'day he didnt give any kiss and i have to ask him to buy me a b'day cake....when we r not fighting everything seems ok...but inside my heart im very dissapoint...what should i do?this not what im looking for from my marriage..
2006-07-04 02:48:40 · 16 answers · asked by Jovan Lyn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not sure how the Korean culture views divorce. It is probably frowned upon, I would assume. So I can understand your hesitation.
I would suggest telling him how disappointed you are in this relationship. If you don't really want to get divorced tell him so, but say that it's very hard for you to live like this, and something must change.
If he truly loves you, he will do whatever it takes to keep this marriage afloat. I would strongly recommend going to couples counseling. He needs to find better ways to be sensitive to your needs.
If he doesn't want to go to counseling or do anything else to change the relationship even tho you are unhappy, then I would say that he does not truly value you or the marriage and that the relationship is probably not going to improve as you would like.
Good luck.
2006-07-04 02:56:24 · answer #1 · answered by blueskies7890 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he ain't nothing but a lieing big baby. You didn't get in a marriage to raise an adult. That was his parents job when he was little. He needs to stop acting preschool, and start acting his own age. Men cheats, and some will give the most stupidest excuse ever.
Why they do that, who knows. Live and let go. Let him be at home with parents, and find God know what on the internet. Go and find someone who is better for you. There is other men out there, just bait and go fishing again.
If not, then have some time for yourself. Relax and give your own self some space. Let no man come above you. And let no man put you under.
2006-07-04 10:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At times we know what to do, our gut instinct tells us, but sometimes we ignore it and later on say "Why did I not listen to that gentle voice telling me to..." or "if only I had listened to my...." or "I knew I should have..."
In my opinion, so long as your thoughts do not involve physically harming the person or carrying out a revengeful act, do what your gut instinct is telling you to do. At times taking firm, well thought through actions, such as leaving the person is the only way the person can learn. I would think about whether my present action is adding to him being a weak man (irresponsible) or contributing to his learning how to be responsible. If it's the former, then it's probably best to leave him, and hopefully one day he will learn. You also need to think of your happiness as a matter of importance. Good luck!
2006-07-04 10:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by lohe46 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be in emotional pain and that is the worst there is. It appears this man has no respect for you and in turn he will cause you to lose respect for yourself and that is much to high a price to pay, Follow your heart, this man isn't much of a man if he treats you this way, Be the Strong and beautiful woman god has created you to be and move on. True Love waits for you.........
2006-07-04 10:08:57 · answer #4 · answered by Angellove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a independance lady, thats no problem. if u got kid , do u have family taking care? if all was no problem, go for happines but this time u gotta open eyes wide beware what 2nd man want from u, do not commit into love or when u hurt, u lost yourself from this man life.
2006-07-04 09:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then get out. You are too young to live such a miserable life. Find someone who will appreciate you for the good person you are.
2006-07-04 11:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please quit... I am sure that every minute you had spended, are spending and will spend, will of no use but always you have to kill your feelings, your expectations and your desire. In short, your killing your self. Come out of it. Come back to were you belong. He married you because of things which he got from you like sex etc and now for him, you are just another household thing. I am sorry to be harsh and blunt, but i'll prefer you must quit.
2006-07-04 09:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already answered your own question. IF in your heart you don't want to live like that, then you should leave. There is no reason to stay unhappy and if leaving would make you happy leave. No one should be treated like crap
2006-07-04 09:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart and move on, unless you want to live in misery the rest of your life.
2006-07-04 09:53:13 · answer #9 · answered by Diana C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce. Life is to short to be unhappy.
2006-07-04 10:09:39 · answer #10 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋