What is your opinion on gay marriage bans?

Question

How does gay marriage affect the "sanctity" of their other marriages? In my opinion, abuse actually does threaten marriage, but many conservatives are opposed to programs to help those people. Anti-gay marriage bans are pure hatred.

I live in a state in the south where hatred of gays is rampant, and we just passed a gay marriage ban.

Answer 1

The straight people that are against gay marriage are either worried that gay people will have better marriages than straight people or are too scared of admitting that they have gay tendencies themselves and are jealous of gay people that actually have the guts to admit they are gay!

Answer 2

First and foremost, I believe in equality and tolerance.
If we agree that each and every citizen of the world is but the same as anyone else, then we should all have the same rights.
Now, if any straight citizen has the right to obtain civil marriage, then why gay people shouldn't have the same right?
It is almost impossible to me to support bans on gay marriage on a logical base. It is not about politics, nor religion, just common sense to me.
I believe the confusion might be derived from the fact that most people relate the civil right to a religious choice, and that's where it all gets messed. Religion has got absolutely nothing to do with this.
The other aspect that I consider relevant to this matter, besides the logic of civil right and the difference with religious beliefs, is the fact that there still exists a social reluctance to accept gay marriages, and as any other social change, it will take time and some resistance.
I believe this to be the turning point, the place where all gay rights movements should pay most attention to, because without social agreement, no change will be possible.

Answer 3

Gay marriages? That is an oxy moron! Marriage by definition has always been between a man and a woman. Never a man and a man or a woman and a woman. Marriage is an institution and to allow so called gay marriages cheapens the institution of marriage. Children will have to grow up in a world where they are now confused about what a mother or a father (or a family for that matter) is- and that is dangerous.

All in all I don't think that gay marriages will ever be supported in this country and I also believe that a constitutional amendment will eventually pass. Contrary to popular belief most American oppose gay marriage.

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BTW Ladies ang Gents- Marriage is not a right! Nor is it guaranteed by the constitution! It is just like driving a car. The government does not HAVE to give you a Driver's License nor do they HAVE to give you a marriage license! So anyone thinking that a ban on gay marriage can be stopped is missing the point. Get your facts straight...uh oh I said straight....am I being intolerant?

Answer 4

I hate to disagree with you on a matter, but...

There is no state in the United States that has banned gay marriage. It is legal in ALL 50 states.

The legislation and state constitutional amendments that have been passed only say that those states WILL not recognize gay marriage as equal to straight marriage. Some have gone as far as to say that the state will not even recognize the union of homosexuals by any other name.

I agree that these forms of legislation are useless. I agree that the arguments for them are just as useless, but don't misunderstand the nature of this controversy. Don't fall victim to the lies they tell. They aren't banning gay marriage, they are simply saying gay people are less than equal.

We don't do that in this country. at least not when people fight against it.

Answer 5

Gay marriage does not affect the sanctity of marriage, abuse and infidelity do. MArriage has NOT always been defined as one man and one woman. It has also been defined as one man and SEVERAL women (supported in the bible). Also, the bible does not discuss homosexuality as we know it today. Find a verse in the bible that talks about homosexuality when it is NOT accompanied with prositition, rape, infidelity, or promiscuity.
A man shall not lie with a man as he does with a woman , what if that man does not lie with a woman at all...again you are talking about either infidelity or promiscuity.

Again I will tell you, we went through the same thing in this country with interracial marriages, and the bible thumpers said "If God had wanted us to mix He wouldn;t have put us on seperate continents". An arguement that sounds ridiculous today, yet it worked, until the the mid 20th century atleast.

Homosexuality has been around longer than religon, longer than marriage. it will become legal. Conservatives should just get used to the idea now.

And once again, to those who compare a monogamous, loving relationship between two consenting adults of the same gender to pedophilia or rape or bestiality....who gets hurt? Have I hurt anyone by being in the relationship I am in? No I haven't. However perverts who molest children (not consentual) rape (not consentual) bestality (can;t be consentual)...it's like comparing apples and puppies...not even remotely similar.

Answer 6

Anti gay marriages are about pure hatred and religious persecution. Who says we all have to believe in the same thing? If you religion says being gay is a sin, fine, but mine doesn't. And hardly anybody understands that. I'm not worried about it, soon enlightenment will prevail over ignorance and this plan will fall through. They can't ignore our voices forever, I'm firm in that belief.
They talk about wanting to protect the 'sanctity' of marriages, that it's a 'religious institute'. Who's yelling at the Atheists who get married? And no, I'm not against Atheists, I'm trying to prove a point. Then they ask "Oh, what's next? Polygamy? Marrying a horse? Pedophiles?" In the bible, men sometimes had 3, 4,5 or MORE wives. Fathers SOLD their YOUNG daughters into servitude, and sometimes they were married. Tell me how this is any different? The LAW sets down age of consent, not the bible, so now they're crossing LAW and GOD'S LAW. Their combining CHURCH and STATE. Isn't that something that's supposed to be SEPARATE?
Sanctity of marriage, that's a joke. You're right when you say abuse threatens marriage, as does people who cheat, but, if we follow GOD'S LAW, adultery is a sin, is it not? But you don't see them laying down any laws against cheaters. Why aren't they being stoned to death or some other cruel and violent punishment?
People like to call homosexuality a sin and say it's wrong and you can't do this that and the other, but see how many loopholes they allow for their sins. It's a sin to be drunk, it's a sin to eat shellfish, it's a sin to wear clothes made of 2 different fabrics, isn't it? But these sins aren't quite as bad as the sin of homosexuality, so they feel like they're in the clear?
It's pure ignorance, and hatred, but one day soon it will all stop.

Answer 7

What is the definition of 'marriage' anyways in the 21 st Century?
Between a man and a woman ONLY according to the Church?
When it comes to gay marriage, majority follow/ support the Church. Why not follow all the way in every espect of your life if religion suppose to be good? Why being hypocritical, shallow, bias and double-standard?
While many straight couples nowdays have the right to do anything inside and outside marriage like having affairs, swingers, downlow and 3some etc, what does marriage actually means in the modern society?
Marriage is not about 2 people of the opposite sex unite together and have kids. It is about rights, sharing common bond love ties together with feelings, commitment and support.
If the religion is considered secular in the most democratic society, so does marriage!
It is everyone right to choose and adopt the concept of marriage. Not the church, not politicians and not straight people either! It is basic right! It seems that the ruling party tries to 'bully' minority group to maintain status quo and hide behind the Church.
Some people afraid to explain to the kids why homosexual exists/two same sex kissing each other etc? Well, if you cant deal with modern society, go to Texas and live in the barn! In denial?
However, at the end of the day we are all the same. We are all pick and drop the Bible's teachings. Nobody is perfect! But many tend to believe they are perfect just because they go to Church. For a start, why not teach respect and learn to be a human!
We are different in preferences, lifestyle and background. Why cant people let it be and respect each other right. Dont use Church and religion to promote prejudice, hatred and bias! Dont be hypocrite! What astonish me people talk about being the Champ of freedom of speech and democracy... but at the end...it is all about bla bla bla!

Answer 8

In history, marriage was a social contract, and entered into outside of the church. Around the 13th century (or was it the 12th?) churches started to sanctify the marriage. Today the religious bless ships, new businesses, pets, parades any anything else that they wish God's good will.

Each church should be able to decide for itself whether it will marry same-sex partners. This is part of our freedom of religion.

But marriage, in the legal sense, is still a social contract, recognized by the state. As such, it should be open to couples regardless of the sameness or opposition of their genders.

If you listen to anyone who spouts about how gay marriage would destroy the institution of marriage, and just write down their reasons, you could use most of the exact same reasons to argue why gays in a commit ed loving relationship SHOULD be allowed to marry.

Answer 9

Homosexual unions were common througghout history up until the time of King James (you know, the one who had the bible rewrote at swordpoint). As he was the world's biggest pedarast, he convinced the church to speak out against it so that he could have his choice of untouched young boys. It's taken this long for a portion of society to reclaim the fact that it is a normal member and not some type of freak. Let's see what would happen today if some other accepted group were to be put in that setting again, say maybe women, and see how far that boat floats.

Answer 10

I don't believe that government has any business in defining what marriage is. Marriage is the permanent joining of something, be it people, or whatever.

There is a hidden agenda behind amending the constitution. It is a sacred document, and not a toy, or a dictionary. We need to leave the decision to get married to the people involved.