if i divorce?

Question

me and my husband have 3 kids we own a house and a business together he wants a divorce and im havin to do the same where do i stand im worried ill loose my house we have a loan on the house as well so im really worried cos i cant pay the both would i get help or would we have to sell

plus hes f****d off to canada as he says he needs a break and im left with our 3 kids.

for a month

Answer 1

Pretty much, it's all negotiable.

Try talking it over with your ex first. If you 2 can't agree, you'll have to get lawyers.

The cheapest way is to be a member of a "legal plan" lawyers in the "plan" give you a reduced rate

You WILL get through this- so don't waste time worrying.

Answer 2

You didn't mention that your husband wants a divorce in your previous question. I still stand my ground when I say you should try and rescue this marriage. Obviously you trusted and loved eachother enough to buy a house, have children and start a business. Maybe you were spending way too much time together.

As far as the house is concerned, I've been there and am still there. If you really think this marriage is headed for divorce then you really do need to consult a lawyer. A lawyer will be better informed to the legalities of the assets you own along with your husband. Good luck. I really wish you would try counseling first. Again, remember, if your husband went to Canada, find out why. Make sure there isn't another involved, if you know what I mean. That would make a big difference.

Answer 3

Depends on the state in which you live. Where I'm from, if you bought the house and started the business after you were married, then the value of each is divided equally between the two (as well as any other assets including things like stocks, retirement funds, etc). If your children are minors, then there will have to be a settlement for their support and care...whether there will be joint custody or sole custody to one parent in which the other will pay child support. Also, there is a consideration for spousal maintenance (what used to be termed Alimony) depending on the need and length of the marriage. A friend of mine was able to stay in their house with the children and the ex was responsible for the mortgage until the youngest child was 18 at which point the house was sold and the profits split.
Good luck!

Answer 4

Sweetie you need to be talking to an attorney. Every Stste is a little different. Depending on laws and what you want, you can file for seperation based on abandonment or divorce, get childsupport, payment for all non insurance covered items such as medical dental and vision for the kids, have him cover them with insurance or just add the amt into your support. You may get a settlement and or alimoney and could ask him to sell the house and or business and split the equity with you. At any rate, go see a lawyer. Some states now have language regarding very specific items such as abandonment, affairs and restricted visitation for the kids. If he has already fled the county you can probably ask for restricted if not limited visitation to protect the kids. You need to move fast if you are sure that you want the divorce.

Answer 5

Hi - the only answer is to see the solicitor, there is a lot that can be done to support and help you through this. If money is tight make sure you only pay things that keep a roof over you and the children, forget the rest. Write to them and explain whats happening. Everyone you owe money too will be more undertanding than you know.

Go and see the CAB and ask their help as well

Can you keep the business going?

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Answer 6

Go to see a solicitor and also make an appointment with the Citizens Advice Bureau (if in UK). Things are never as bad as they seem at first. I worried about all the same things but I have found that I am actually better off without the wan**r

Answer 7

Dont bother trying to save a marriage that has well and truly gone- think of yourself and your kids. Get to a lawyer as fast as you can, as you are entitled to a proportion of both home and business. Get the divorce in motion before he gets back, change the phone numbers and the locks. Very best wishes to you, but just go for it; your kids dont need a runaway daddy, and neither do you!!!

Answer 8

Dont worry about where he goes........worry about where he is going to send you the child support money... and please get a lawyer because you guys have too much tied up in this marriage canada my *** until the divorce is over... you are not going to be left with nothing believe that.... if he is the one wants a divorce is going to cost him.. dont you let him get away with nothing... that is what a lawyer is for. believe me when the divorce settle you are going to be pay all your bills and then some.... the law is in your side you have the kids.and they are going to make sure your kids have enough of his money to grow with out problems.you just get a good lawyer the best his money can buy.good luck.

Answer 9

If you divorce, and you keep the kids, he will have to pay child support, and things will be split. You need a good divorce lawyer. He will do what's in your best interest. I wish you well. I think I would get out and kick him to the curb.

Answer 10

I'm currently going through the same messy business. you need to go to www.entitledto.co.uk web site, its very good. you fill in your details and it tells you what you can claim for. you won't loose your house so stop worrying. just sort things out and a visit to the citizens,s advise bureau might put your mind at rest.