me and my husband had a big argument last week we havent really spoke since then now hes gone today to canada for a month to have a break we have 3 kids together what should i do i am thinkin about divorce.
2006-07-04 02:34:34 · 13 answers · asked by pinkdragon 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to talk to your husband. what's the rush in getting a divorce. after talking to him you'll be in a better position to weigh his feelings and thoughts, then you can decide what to do. won't be easy, but you'll live through it.
2006-07-10 23:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Going to Canada for a month? Is it job related? What the heck is going on here. This is your husband. You two need to realize that marriage is a very serious relationship, especially when children are involved. Did he at least come to see the kids before he left? I believe that before you head out and get a divorce, you should sit with him and have a heart to heart talk. Nobody said marriage would be easy. If I were you, I would head out to Canada and find out what's going on. Do not go over there in a very demanding kind of way. Go to him in a loving kind of way. See if someone can stay with the kids while you do this. You guys need to communicate. Having a fight and then not speaking to eachother is a sure way of ruining any relationship. Is it worth it? Can you even remember what you fought about? Is it worth divorcing eachother? Think very seriously before you react.
2006-07-04 02:41:16 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was looking for a way out for a while. He should had stay, and solve ya'll's problem before running off. It's going to cause more conflict, when he get back home to you. It's no fair, leaving you there with the kids.
He is married, a married man should stick at home with his family. I understand he might want some space. But also wanting space for a month is uncall for . Sure he don't have anyone else up there ????
It's going to hard handling three kids yourself. He should be kick in the butt, for leaving everything up to you. Thats no fair at all. But if you want to talk it out. Call him, or write him. Whatever it seems fit, and try to make it work.
Or you and him could get some therpy sessions. but if I was you. I be very tick off. What happen if the kids/kid got sick. Or something worse then that.
2006-07-04 03:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, when did you last have a months break away from the housework and kids??? When did he last buy you flowers or jewellery, or tell you he loves you? how come he can just piss off for a month and leave you with all the responsibilities??? Move house while he is gone, or make sure all his stuff is on the drive in plastic bags when he comes back from his romantic month away...change the locks, and tell him in no uncertain manner to f**k off; you deserve better than this selfish bastard, and so do your kids, so the sooner you dump him the better it will be for everybody.Good luck to you and your family.
2006-07-04 10:23:27 · answer #4 · answered by k0005kat@btinternet.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned in another question that your husband said he wanted a divorce. Do you want to save this? You don't sound sure. What does he think is wrong with the relationship? Perhaps some counseling could fix the issue. If you want to save it, tell him you are willing to do whatever it takes. He might accept that, or he might not.
2006-07-04 02:44:46 · answer #5 · answered by blueskies7890 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He left YOU with three kids so HE could have a break?....sweetie unless you see a future with this man, change the locks on the door and go see a good lawyer.
2006-07-04 02:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by SirenSings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and tell him how you feel ask him if divorce is the answer he may want it more than you do.... But make sure you see a lawyer first and take that sorry thing to the cleaners
2006-07-04 02:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by inquiring minds want to know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be wondering if there was another woman. Why would he want a break and go to Canada hmmmm
2006-07-10 15:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a childish thing he has done.. did he leave you to care for your children on your own?? no wonder your thinking of divorce.. if your marriage is worth saving, you should speak to someone... if not i think you have allready made up your mind....
2006-07-04 02:58:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are heading in the direction of a correct answer...!
2006-07-04 02:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by lindsay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋