my lives in a codepency inviroment with her parents next door. my ex committed adultery with a stranger. The enviroment that my daughter is not healthy for her. I'm a 48 yr old man and my ex is 37. She smothers my daughter by doding over her. My daughter is 9. I'm afraid she will grow into the inmeshed family with the same codependency problems and I think she needs to be brought up into a more healthy inviroment. To be raised as an independent adult.
2006-07-04 02:28:46 · 7 answers · asked by christsluv4u 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
you should share custody....that little girl needs her mother too.
2006-07-04 02:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by simpleplan0013 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every family court in america works on the this concept: They will do whatever is in the best interest of the child. For the most part the courts attempt to balance that with parental rights. That is why joint custody is usually the best option for the court.
However, what you described is not harmful to your child in a real sense. Your best bet, and what would benefit your daughter the most, is for you to talk to your ex. Attempt to take an active role in parenting just as you should if you lived together. Don't step on each others rulings.
If you notice actual harm being done to your child...developmentally or physically then you should contact a family court lawyer.
2006-07-04 05:50:01 · answer #2 · answered by strangedaze23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, not a court in the US would ever give you custody over the mother unless she went on a crime spree. Even then they would eventually return her after time served. Bottom line, a child needs their mother more than their father and it's just reality. I love my son but know where he's best.
You need to be careful and realise that your actions speak less of concern for your daughter then a way to use her as a pawn in your relationship. Do what's best and make the transition with your wife easy for the sake of your daughter.
2006-07-04 02:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by Keith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you divorced, the court issued a custody order. In order for you to get a change in custody, most states will require you to file a motion to modify the order by showing a change in circumstances and that change would be in your daughter's best interests. You can try and do that on your own, but you are better off hiring a local attorney who knows family law and custody issues.
2006-07-04 03:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by Carl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder why you didn't think of this before custody was established and if you did try for custody earlier why was it denied? You need to retain an attorney that specializes in this. If there is a reason you can't have custody, the attorney will tell you along with ways to correct it.
2006-07-04 02:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your child is appointed a law guardian.Until your child tells them there is drinking,drug use or something that in-dangers the welfare of your child.Your screwed,If she being a Ho,that's OK in NY.Bottom line its all about whats best for your child.I won custody of my daughter in NY.But the ex. was including my child in her drinking and drug use.I stood up in court and told the judge,I want to be part of the solution,not the problem,and looked at the ex.I won,then my attorney said go file for child support.I said really,he said she wouldn't wait to file on you.My daughter is now 24,with a Masters Degree in psychology.If my ex. got her she would be another pregnant,alkie,druggie,ho.
2006-07-04 11:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best advice is to find a good lawyer, it's going to cost money...perhaps a lot, but it will be worth it in the end...I say this even though I HATE lawyers!
2006-07-04 02:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by Ariel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋