i have been with him for 5 years. Saw and talked to each other every single day. Now we have broken up, i dont know how to live my life without him. Everything reminds me of him. I am so use to him around. What can i do?
2006-07-04 02:25:04 · 20 answers · asked by michelle712 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You feel that you can't live,... if living is with out him! 5 years is along time, and the process of healing doesn't seem feasible. Your pain is so deep, you believe that it could never heal. But I am here to tell you, you can! It's hard!!! You have to take it moment by moment, minute by minute and one day at time. Your thinking process is the first thing you have to tackle. You have to dismiss those thoughts of you and your ex and the things that you use to do. When you find yourself thinking about him, you have to stop, mentally and verbally tell yourself, "I can do this," and have a safety thought wave ready to replace those of yester years. There is nothing worse than being two and ending up one. Each day you have to have a game plan. When you awake in the morning, you need that reason to get out of bed and continue to live. Make contact with your friends, especially that one that makes you laugh, you need her the most. Make sure you never leave the house without showering, looking "hot", and have a game plan intact for the day. For now stay busy, busy, busy! There is nothing more desirable, if you should ran into your Ex, than seeing your Ex Lady, out living, laughing, and looking good. I don't know if you want to be able to work things out with him or not, but regardless, you need to take these steps anyway. Stay away from places that the two of you use to go, if need be, put away things around your house that makes you think of the Ex. Never, ever isolate yourself! A MUST!!! In the meantime, life is going on, you are reclaiming a place of your own back in the world, and time will seem to travel faster, going, doing, and living. Don't go to bed at night until you know your tired and ready to sleep. Worst place in the world to meet up with your pain and hurt all night long. Eventually, you will wake up one morning and the first thought that will start to enter your mind will be about the fun things you have been doing and what you have to look forward today. Just stay focused, and live, and what ever is going to be will be. Destiny gives us many forkes in the road, and its our place to choose. So make your choice. Good things are like a merry-go-around, eventually it comes around to us again.
2006-07-04 03:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 04:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by Kenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to let you know I am a guy, I would begin by seeing some of your friends and hang out a little, Hey this is your life live it, I am sure there is something you like to do a hobby, if not find one. Laughter will help, but if you feel like crying then do it and get it out, and leave it behind. Remember this, while you are walking around looking at stuff and it's reminding you of him, there was the love of your life that just walked by and gave you the look that would have put you to your knees, oh but wait you didn't see it because you was thinking of him. Just a thought. Good luck.
2006-07-04 02:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel like this when you first break up with someone. I mean, you depended on this guy for happiness for awhile and now he's gone, right.....
but you need to see this as a blessing in disguise. Why? Because it seems as if you are not valuing yourself. Seems like you lived and breathed this guy. In the process you've lost yourself, which is why you are feeling the way you are. It's one thing to miss someone because you've just broken up but it's another if, in time, you do not get over him.
Treat yourself, honey. Go away for a weekend with some friends. Go pamper yourself. Keep your mind focussed on other things. Change your surroundings for a while.
Good luck.
2006-07-04 02:34:46 · answer #4 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest taking a trip somewhere for a few days, to get out of the area that reminds you of him so much. On that trip, think about your life and what you want to do with it now that it is your own. Try to work through the pain of losing him. When you get back, try to preoccupy yourself with a hobby or with friends.
Good luck!
2006-07-04 02:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by blueskies7890 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey its not gonna be easy I'm sure you know. but the same thing happened to me in high school about 6 years back and we just got back together about a month ago. I'm not saying he'll come back but if it was meant to be then he will, if not then there is another man out there for you who will make you forget all your pain and make you a very happy woman. As for now I'd go out with friends don't spend too much time alone as that will give you time to dwell on your pain listen to up beat music. talk to your friends and family let them know how you feel. sometimes letting others know how you feel can be very therapeutic. I hope i have helped.
2006-07-04 02:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by commander_fernandez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are living your life without him right now as you speak,you are breathing so you can live with out him you see? let him come to you if he dont come back then it just was not meant to be....is as simple as that.. while he make his mind you find things you like and enjoy... focus on you.. and maybe while you have sometime for your self analyze the relationship you might even find a few things wrong with it..... just worry about you right now because life is beutiful and priceless and you dont want to waste your time in life weeping about someone who probablably havent yet call you....let him come to you is the key and in the mean time keep living because your not dead just single,,,enjoy.......... good luck
2006-07-04 02:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
recently, i also experienced a break up....but though the relationship didn't last as long as yours, it was really hard for me as well.... before him, i felt as if my life was all in shambles.... having him in my life was like a breath of fresh air.... finally, someone else really cares... i have someone to talk to who understands..... someone who brightens up my everyday..... before i knew it, my life started to revolve around him.... and when the time came for us to go our separate ways, it was very hard for me..... never have i experienced a break up this painful... i had trouble eating, sleeping, doing anything.... i couldn't stop sending him text messages or calling him.... like you, everything reminded me of him..... i thought it was impossible to get over him.... i'm still going thru the process.... but now i know i can do it...... how?... i cried a lot, went out with my friends a lot, focused on other things..... i still think about him.... but i'm proud to say that i've already stopped communicating with him...... let me share with you what someone told me.... what does not kill you can only make you stronger..... you know what?.... it's true..... if i can do it.... so can you. good luck!
2006-07-04 02:53:48 · answer #8 · answered by wildflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Really there is life out there without him. There is a lot more Guys out there than him. Go on with your life. Hang out with your friends,go to bars, have fun Time heals everthing and in time things won't hurt as much.Until then stop thinking about him.and enjoy life.
2006-07-04 03:17:10 · answer #9 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels the same way about you. Sounds like you found you true love and lost him. I don't know what caused the break-up, but give it some time, and if you still feel the same way, call him up and talk to him. He probably misses you too, I'm sure.
2006-07-04 05:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by SweetP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋