It's summer. It's hot. Gorgeous women everywhere. Legs, cute bottoms, lots of skin. I'm going nuts. Are all guys sexually obessed? What's wrong with us. Help.
2006-07-04 02:24:55 · 16 answers · asked by phenotype 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I love my girlfriend, and I would never want to hurt her. Isn't it a paradox then that my brain goes TILT when I look at a pair of legs? (which are no better than the ones of my girlfriend) ... I'm longing for winter... long coats, how I love that...
2006-07-04 03:04:53 · update #1
Relax. It's not wrong at all. It's your nature. Don't even bother trying to fight it.
But if you care about your partner, you'll make sure that she knows for certain that SHE, and no other woman, is the one you adore. Once she knows that all those other women are just eye candy for you, she'll be ok with you looking. In fact she might even feel quite superior, knowing that you're all hers, and that those other girls will just have to eat their hearts out.
2006-07-04 02:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by allaboutthewords 4 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Have you heard this analogy of temptation being likened to a bird that can not be controlled from flying into view?Well but if it flew into your hair and made for itself a nesting dwelling there, It would be you at fault ,at fault for allowing it to do so. So, they walk by but you control yourself and do not undress them with your eyes . Don't allow yourself to look longingly in that direction. And if there is a chronic and long term temptation where you work or live I hope your wife would be able to listen or maybe an accountability partner if you have a good men's fellowship group this is the greatest . Summer is very difficult in this way. You are above average to even care and ask the question.I have a wonderful man for my husband who cares about these things and I feel so loved that he makes this effort at faithfulness,everything is a thought before it becomes an action . You are wise to guard what you have.
2006-07-04 09:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're "going nuts" then you aren't ready for a partnership yet. You haven't mastered the need to explore sexually and your libido and brain are telling you this!
Looking at a beautiful person, even appreciating how they look is healthy, but feeling an urge to pursue them is not. It's actually a manifestation of your ego trying to find itself, but I don't think you really wanted to know that. LOL And don't blame your libido on ALL MEN because ALL MEN aren't like this. Men, just like women, go through this phase where they need external proof of their worthiness and their desirability. And men and women mature through that to a place where the long for a committed relationship.
Dude, you aren't mature enough for a relationship, cut the poor girl loose and go sow your wild oats. You'll be doing her a favor because she's wasting her time with you. Harsh but true.
2006-07-04 09:31:46 · answer #3 · answered by Happy Guesser 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its surivival of the fittest mate.
How does that apply here? Well, survival of the fittest was coined for natural selection. Natural selection, if you remember your high school biology class, is what makes evolution successful. Basically, it says that if an animal has unattractive genes or genes that won't help them as much as others, then it will not reproduce at all or as much as an animal with attractive genes and genes that will help it. So what would be the considered the "fittest" animal in one species then? The animal that reproduces the most. So instinct is telling you to cheat, so you can reproduce more.
Just don't do anything about it. Its not wrong to want more, but its wrong to do something about it.
2006-07-04 12:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by Donnie Dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty, honesty, honesty. Do not let someone convince you that looking is wrong. You will go mad with guilt every time you walk down the street or go to the mall. There is nothing quite so prone to drive you to jealousy than self imposed guilt. If your partner asks if you are looking, be honest. I don't mean rude, or lewd, but reassure her as best you can that you wouldn't act on the impulse. If you are going to take this approach I suggest you also keep in mind that she looks too. Women are just better at not getting caught at it.
2006-07-04 10:55:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sound right to me, what is the problem here I wonder. So you don't like feeling what the rest of us feel, perhaps it's guilt; yet you haven't done anything or why would you bother posting this. Curious dilemma. Well good luck, I don't think there's anything wrong with your thinking; it's how I think.
2006-07-04 09:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Jimmy Carter said "I have had lust in my heart".
It is not wrong to think about it, it is wrong to act. Just keep in mind though, Guys worry about paternity. Women worry about supporting a family. Don't look too hard or you are going to get her annoyed. Assuming you care.
A woman wants a guy's attention, and if you want to keep one, you cannot let her feel like she is not getting it.
2006-07-04 09:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by diogenese19348 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Desire" is probably wrong. Curiosity isn't, necessarily. Not a good idea to act on it though. As a wise man said," Just because you're on a diet, doesn't mean you can't read the menu."
2006-07-04 09:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by aboukir200 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong. Even if we lust after another woman with our mind or eyes we commit adultery.
2006-07-04 09:28:29 · answer #9 · answered by Help 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's only wrong if you act on it!!
2006-07-04 09:28:13 · answer #10 · answered by colorados_lost_rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋