groom had second thoughts 3 weekes prior to wedding but didn't stop the arrangements. 4 weeks after wedding it ended.
2006-07-04 01:56:56 · 24 answers · asked by angelsdamaenrojo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give it back........don keep any balance ....it may disturb you in future.
2006-07-04 02:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatley, you going to have to.
Any gifts and money that were given to you both were given with the intent to bless your marriage and start it off with needed things.
Since most wedding gifts are monetary, you are going to have to split the responsability of returning the cash even if it was already spent.
Otherwize your going to have allot of people upset with you.
People will understand if you need some time to do it.
Example; My cousin got a girl pregnant while he was in the Navy 15 years ago.
He wanted to do the right thing, so he asked her to marry him. She said yes at first. The date was set.
They planned to marry away from home so everyone sent money if they could not go.
The day before the wedding she changed her mind.
My cousin never returned anything that was sent to them.
I was more upset about the principle of it then the loss of the $. So was everyone else.
2006-07-04 02:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by lovingfeathers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what Ms. Manners would say, but I'm fairly certain she would think it proper that the gifts be returned WITH a brief note of explanation, such as: "thanks so much for the lovely gift but we've both realized we've made a mistake (or something to this effect) and are divorcing and as such, we feel it not appropriate for us to keep it." Sincerely>>>(both names)
Keep it brief, to the point, and MUTUAL by using both bride & groom's names-- same as if you were writing thank you note under happier circumstances.
I don't think it necessary or appropriate to make any more specific explanations in the return thank you note. Nor would Ms. Manners, I dare say. Understatement and discretion are always best.
You will be able to discuss the details verbally with those closest to you-- if you so desire. If others call after receiving the return & start asking questions & you don't feel like discussing in detail, just repeat what you said in the note & then say: "I'm sure you understand that it's really difficult for me to/I simply can't discuss this any further."
If they want to send it back again, say: " Thank you but I just don't feel right keeping it." If they keep insisting, say: " Please keep it for me until I find the really right person to marry."
If they keep bugging you after all this, just find a way to get off the phone or get away from the person.
"Oh dear, must hang, my house is on fire" or "Wow, just realized I've won the lottery and have to go pick up the prize; Taaxiii. " (just kidding, but you get the drift)
So sorry you have to go through this, but I am encouraged that your mind is in a good place if you're thinking about doing the right thing by your guests, while dealing with your own profound sadness.
I've always thought that "good manners" are sort of like the golden rule. If in doubt, do what you would have liked done for you/would think appropriate if the situation were reversed.
Best of luck and remember that you WILL get through this and go on to find the person you were genuinely meant to be with!
2006-07-04 02:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by lisita429 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have no idea, I had to ask my mother LMAO, she said yes, it should be given back out of protocol, unless you split the gifts between the groom and bride during divorce proceedings. But at least the engagement ring can be kept.
2006-07-04 02:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, by def a gift is something you give to a person and now that gift belongs to this person. If the person feel bad about getting all these gift, then yes give them back. But if it was me I would have kept them . Mhaaaaaaaaa
2006-07-04 02:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by Bogacki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wedding did go through, so I think you are entitled to keep the gifts, although the marriage didn't work out.
2006-07-04 02:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES - I spend hundreds of dollars on a stupid dress and gifts for a now ex-friend who married a man for two weeks. They kept the gifts and lost a lot of friends.
2006-07-04 02:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it should be. It is the only right thing to do. You can't keep the gifts because you didn't go through with it. Keeping them would only mean you are living a lie.
2006-07-04 02:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by Wahenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, never return gifts, they are yours to keep....divorce is inevitable these days, people should know that when buying wedding gifts.
2006-07-04 02:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by Stress 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not give back the gifts. Sell them, and get some help from the
professionals.
2006-07-04 02:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask all the persons to come at a same place and replace the gifts to them
2006-07-04 01:59:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋